Why would he say this

[isobel79]

Yesterday I had a conversation with a man who said:

1. I'm a nice person but boring

1. I wear clothes that are OK but the underneath isn't good I. E. My underwear

1. I have no excitement

1. If I was with a man they would definatley cheat on me

1. That I need to change

1. Sends me a video of a woman teaching a class how to give BJ

1. Sends me a picture of jewelled knickers saying I should buy them

1. Tells me how he's had one night stands and how they've been acted out.

Basically this man has made me feel like shit. Known him for over 20 years and I always let him back in and this is how he says he respects and loves me. The worst is we ain't even in a relationship. He was me to change not for him but for ME. Yet aside from one other man telling me in the past that we not "sexually compatible" i actually feel like this man who claims to be lifting my self esteem is tearing me apart

That is awful OP. Cut him out of your life, you have no need for such a prick. Enjoy being single and meeting someone decent if you want to

He’s clearly not interested. Cut him from your life

Why would he say this? Because he's a miserable, fun-sucking prick who gets a twisted kick out of undermining your self-esteem. Do yourself a massive favour and stop giving him any space in your life or your mind. Block him and completely forget about him.

Thanks all posts.

So he just called me and we ended up having a big disagreement. And you know what he said I should "block him from my phone" so that's what I have done. He's blocked. I have made him realise that I don't need a man to make me feel whole. And yes I'm upset but life goes on.

Totally agree - delete his number, block and don't waste any more time on him (especially when he tries to sneak his way back into your life).

Why would you knowingly want someone in your life treating you like such shit? It is clearly not good for your mental health or self-esteem.