Penis handling!

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I'm in a new relationship and he is not very experienced (he has a lot of experience in masturbation though), and not very confident. He doesn't seem to get hard easily, and when he does he loses it easily.
I feel like I don't know how best to handle his penis! He often has to take it from me and make himself hard. I've never had this issue before so I don't think it's me. I can and will ask him, but I'd love to be able to help him/us, myself too!
I'm looking for details - should I try to move his foreskin right up and down? Hard/soft/fast/slow? Right back up over the tip? What do I need to know? Top tips!
I was in a long relationship before and didn't ever really (need to) think about it, it just all happened and worked!

I've never had problems in the past but with my new partner I have struggled to make him cum with a hand job or bj. For him he likes to be oiled up for a wank and doesn't like his foreskin pulling back too far as can be painful I've not had much experience with foreskin so don't mind the feedback. If it was me I'd ask what he likes to help get him hard as it makes you feel shit when they have to take over (well does for me anyways) Good luck

I would suggest a lot more kissing and touching (not necessarily the penis) beforehand to really get him on a state of anticipation and arousal - something different from his normal masturbation. Edge him along nicely and get him to a point where he's literally begging to be touched, stroked, sucked or fucked.

I'm with weathervane..maybe you both need to take a lot more time to relax,more of a lead in,more foreplay..if your going to handle your mans penis for any length of time and id say definitely if your going to masturbate him,you need to add some lube. Baby oil is always a good one but bear in mind that it may have some adverse effect on some condoms if thats a follow on..

All men are different so there’s no one answer. If masturbation has been his sex life for a while it may depend on how he got himself aroused - porn, on-line, magazines, imagination/fantasies, etc. so it may take a while to adjust. You could ask him to let you watch him masturbate, say you want to learn (You May have to offer to let him watch you though).
Not getting aroused could be anxiety, stagefright, nervous of new relationship and/or embarrassment at lack of experience.
Sometimes when men can get erections ok but not maintain them it could be a physical health issue, prostate or bladder issue.
As for me, but I am older so the days of three or four erections and ejaculations a session are past, so when DW is playing with hands down below, once hard I prefer her to stroke and caress around the balls, inner thighs, perineum, lower belly - if she strokes the shaft too much it shortens the time to ejaculation, whether wanking, BJ, or PIV. (Does anyone say erogenous zones these days?.)
In the old days I preferred to ejaculate at least once during foreplay leading to longer PIV action.
No easy answer I’m afraid but hope you both work through it.