Sexual frustration and how to initiate sexting.

[NeedtoDTD]

I'm a sexual being and I have needs goddamn it! There's seems to be no end in sight in terms of being able to hook up with someone. Self-pleasure is now getting boring. I need to dtd!!

I have someone on my radar and they seem keen for it - how do I go about initiating sexting?

Might be easiest on a call/video call. That way you can judge what is working and also welcome.

Bumping.

Can't wait for this pandemic to be over to have some real "fun"

@noego have encountered you on another thread. Not asking for sexting purposes - what do you mean by "fun"?

I'm dire need of some fun, but the guy on my radar seems a bit oblivious to it, or is he? Reckon he needs a good shag and I believe I can/want to give that to him, as well as liking him for him of course.

You'll only find out when he responds.

@noego True. I'd like him to approach me first though. He already knows I fancy him.

Just some innocuous message. But with a veeeery slight edge of flirtation.

@mellowww I've already done that. Thanks though.

Well he needs to pick up the thread. Notch up the innuendo slightly. Make it almost obvious.

@mellowww any tips of how I can up the innuendo, please? 😂

The next time he texts you asking how you are just say that you're hot and horny :)

@noego I'll not say that. That sounds far too cheesy and intense from the get go. Starting off subtle is the way to go I reckon. Gentle teasing.

Noego haha! 😂

I think s/he was joking, Op ...

It's a it hard to give you suggestions without knowing you or him. When do you talk to him? What about? How often?

You could pose a question : "Have evet wondered what it's like to text someone who really wants to get with you ?" Then depending on his reply just say " Stop wondering. It's happening now....!" Or take a different approach and say you are really shy when texting someone you fancy and when you text him you get really tongue tied which is a shame because tongues are fun. Good luck

Ok so you need to put a picture in his head. Of you. Wanting him. Of you and him.

Not knowing either of you or the context is a shot in the dark but you have various basic options:

Go sensual

Describe/suggest some physical experiences that will lead his imagination.

Eg:
[Disclaimer: these are pure cheese obvious examples just to give OP the general idea - need to be tailored to suit!]

'Omg just had the nicest bath ... got this amazing bath oil and my skin feels so smooth now ... pity am all alone ☺️'

''Lying in my bed but don't feel like sleeping for some reason ... obviously haven't had enough exercise today 😉'

[i did say these were shamefully Tesco Value comments!]

'So annoyed - got some super silky (and bloody expensive!) stockings online and they come too far up my thighs 😬 (TBVH I like just a little bit of naked flesh at the top - I know 😂 V naughty of me. I like standing in the queue in Costa and knowing I have literally the sexiest stockings hidden under my skirt. Clearly am in need of help!')'

Ok have to go now but will continue later with some more horrific cheese that does the trick even if embarrassing 😂

Remember: sex is just sex. It's pretty simple. Appeal to his base instincts. But why I say knowing him is important - more because he will have a view of you, and you don't want to mess with that by being weirdly OTT. You just need to work out the best way to show him the green flag.

I never cease to be amazed by how guys will actually tell you within 10 seconds how much they want you, if you just pay attention to the signals.

Oooh. Good suggestions. I'll tweak and try those all. Thank you.

Great lines Mellow,, i think women shouldnt feel inhibited in being some flirtatious.. i can think of more than one occasion when id wished a woman had been more obvious !

🙏 Arnold ...

I walked around in a daze for years, not realising how often I was being propositioned by guys - yes, that's how daft we can be! Girls often start from a base of feeling shy and worrying (/being convinced) that they aren't really pretty enough. This means that when a guy looks them in the eye and is trying to say 'I think you're great', she literally doesn't get it. Because she just can't believe it.

I used to wonder about how I would get together with someone. And then, when I reflected later on my life experience, I realised it was always a lot easier than I thought.

It's the same with texting. Being simple. Being upfront. Not being afraid. If two people are texting and answering and having a conversation, there's a good chance both are there because they want to be. So don't second guess it, OP. Just delicately place your cards on the table. Face up.

Did it work?

I’d just go straight in with a what do you think of my new underwear and send a pic ha

Well yes Bluebell that's the simple way 😂

But just pictures can be stored electronically forever ... so maybe best to wait until sure? ...

Just don’t put your face in it and make sure no tattoos (if you have any) are visible 🙈

Have sent low level sexts on two occasions now. He's shy (and I think somewhat inexperienced) as hell! Know he wants it bad though So I'm gonna have to ramp it up. Of course, I'm ultimately wanting more with this guy, but I have an overwhelming urge to bang his brains out. And we have to wait until social distancing is lifted to actually dtd.

Oh god not like @Happyhusband. You’re not 14

Oh god not the stockings.

TomNook 😂😂 I did say I was suggesting generic cheesy placeholders ...

Impossible to write it when no idea who either party is 🤔😅