Low sex drive and the Ick...

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I'm a 29 year old female who I would say has always had a low sex drive in relationships. For the first few months I'm at it like a rabbit but after then I just get bored, uninterested, don't particularly enjoy it etc etc. I feel the 'Ick' about sex. If I'm honest, I don't think I've EVER really loved sex! An orgasm is great yeah but the rest of sex I think is really uninteresting and don't find pleasurable.

Once I've got the sex ick with my partner that's game over for me. I've been with my current partner for 7 years and I am so so crap in bed as I have zero interest and feel crap. It's pretty much always been an issue in all my relationships - the lack of sex interest from me.

I'm borderline splitting from my partner because apparently I put no effort into his needs (I try but he's right). I have to FORCE myself to have sex. I'm worried this is my life going forward and I'll never be able to bold down a relationship because of it...

I do have the urge to pleasure myself but it's often out of boredom rather than 'being in the mood'. I can't remember the last time I was horny but it's pretty much only ever something I feel right at the start of a relationship.

Tell me I'm not totally abnormal?!

I forgot to say - my current partner is by far the best in bed I've ever been with, always wants to pleasure me, tries new things. I'm just not interested! So it's not like he doesn't try!

well if you have a low sex drive and you are masturbating then you probably won't ever feel like sex

@gemsgv not at all helpful what so ever...

So people who have a low sex drive aren't allowed to masturbate? Did I say I do it all the time? No.

You didn't read the thread clearly... it's my lack of desire for sex in general. Even masturbating is more boredom rather than because I want it

No advice but just to let you know you're not alone and hopefully someone will be along with some helpful advice

I have had huge periods of low libido so I get what you're saying. Try this, next time you are masturbating get near to coming and then stop.
Masturbate a bit later and do the same, don't come.
You will soon find that your libido ramps up, like it needs a kick start.
It's like drawing a circle, if you come when you masturbate you complete that circle as it were, if you don't come it is incomplete and fires things up.
Try it

@bumhead thanks for that advice! Never thought of that one...

Bumhead has very good advice