Vaginal tightening surgery?

[WreckTangle95]

Hello everyone. Has anyone had vaginal tightening surgery done? Can you tell me what the recovery was like, and are you happy with the results? I've had four children and I'm seriously considering paying to get this done but can't really find out much about it. I've spoken to my GP who said it often causes more problems than not, and women can experience painful penetration for months or even years afterwards etc. She said she wouldn't recommend it, but the online reviews I've seen are all great. Obviously if I go ahead there's no turning back so I'm trying to get as much info as possible!

I'm confused OP. You haven't been with anyone since the hurt of your last child yet you say it is "much worse" now. How are you defining that?
I agree with the PP who said you're trying to fix a problem that doesn't exist.
The issue would seem to be your body confidence and self perception rather than anything physical.
If it helps, I was very self conscious after the birth of my last child especially when I started dating younger guys. Current DP has assured me that "tight" isn't always good, it can actually be uncomfortable for him. But he loves the feeling of wetness all over his cock. That's what turns him on.
Why not wait until you have a partner and then see how you feel about your body? Surgery seems a very drastic option.

*birth, not hurt!

Larger ladies seem to be tighter. His theory as an observation, no judgement.
I love PIV sex but my DP would happily not bother and stick to oral and hands. He looks after me fine but I know his preferences.
What I'm saying is that unless PIV is everything to you, and you are happy to risk major surgery with no guarantees and slight risk of going badly wrong, please don't do it hoping to please some potential new man. He may not even notice or care about your large foof.
Also how high is your libido? Is sex hugely important to you. It is to me, but others are happy with once a month. Such big surgery for once a month seems disproportionate.
You are really not likely to be abnormal, more likely to be just a normal woman after childbirth. X

Maybe more research needed. Perhaps with medical bods and real live men after lockdown. 😁

I'm defining it with my eyes and fingers. And the gynecologist I saw agreed I needed surgery after DC3. He wouldn't have said that if he thought I didn't need it. And I had another 8lbs5 baby after that. I'm confident it's not in my head. I didn't start this thread for a debate, I just wanted other peoples experience of having the surgery done.

I have a really high libido @wantmorenow! I'm in my mid twenties now so even if I had the surgery, and worse case scenario took a couple of years to recover I could be having the time of my life by the time I'm 30 😂

And no wya is any man getting close unless he is a medical professional! 😉

Fair enough. Be fun practicing though 😜. Luckily for me once I'm turned on I am spectacularly unaware of my inhibitions and entirely selfish. Focusing on my own itch to be scratched. Lol I wish you well. Please do get lots of medical professional opinions though. Some doctors are better than others and can recommend procedures that more cautious and circumspect ones may not.
You are young so recovery should be swifter than much later in life. Sounds like you know what you want. Hopefully more women will come along to offer feedback. Actually be good to hear from male partners of those who have had surgery too. 👍

Thankyou @wantmorenow! I used to be really confident, it sucks feeling this way. And I agree, if there are any men reading this, and your partner has had the surgery done please tell me your experiences?!

Fingers crossed you somehow get the hots for a guy that's hot for you and get completely carried away in a flurry of pheromones.
By the time you get to my age you'll look back at your youthful self and body and wonder why you didn't recognise how awesome you looked and were.
On the plus side confidence can grow as we age and learn to accept our weird shapes and uniqueness. Most people we sleep with are so busy worrying about their own insecurities they don't notice our "flaws".
Enjoy yourself and don't take any of this stuff too seriously. Sex is fun, weird, noisy and completely without dignity. God I miss sex. DP isolating in England, I'm in Wales. Been months now. 🤣🤣🤣

Haha I won't lie that does sound pretty good 😂 you are right, it shouldn't be taken too seriously and we all have flaws, the rational part of my brain knows this but the other part is very superficial! Aw it must be really hard being away from your partner for this long. Hopefully you will be able to see each other soon :)

Thanks. Not too hard really. He's a good one, no faff, mind games or drama.

Take care.

The truth is you don’t go back, sex is worse, your relationships will change and your confidence will go down.
Not my truth, opposite in fact, and that is after 3 vaginal births.

Well it is my truth, after 3 DC. To be fair the damage was done after 1. I've tried it all, kegels, electronic pelvic floor exercisers, Ben wa balls, nothing has helped.

I'm watching this thread with interest- I felt like you do when I was 26, now 36..... wish I had just had the surgery years ago. Sex life has been so shit despite amazing DH being a true gentleman. We now average about 5 times a year. What is the point if we both can't feel it!!!

I'm desperate for the op and have found a private surgeon, I just need to muster up the courage to make that first appointment.

By the way, I name changed for this post

@LocalHobodid you need stitches after birth or did you just go back to being tight naturally? My friend who has 3 kids needed stitches after her last birth, and she healed so tight that sex was painful for months, and she had to use numbing cream.

@titsaleena I would honestly go for it if I were you, plenty of women must feel like us or vaginal tightening surgery wouldn't even be a thing? I will definitely come back to this thread and let everyone know how I get on. Might not be for a long while due to corona etc though.

Larger Ladies are not alwaus tighter. The opposite. Try a kegel 8?

True aswell

Hey everyone, thought I would come back and update this thread. I had the surgery done in October! I went to see my GP and told her I was really unhappy with the previous gynes' decision not to do the surgery, after previously being told I needed it done. She had a look and said it definitley looked like i had a prolapse and she referred me to another gynecologist. So a few weeks later I went to see the new gynecologist and straight away upon looking he said I had a grade 3 cystocele, and a grade 3 rectocele, and that's why I was having problems with laxity and incontinence. Also he couldn't understand why the previous gynecologist told me he wouldn't repair it, but he assumes it was because of my age. He looked up on the system to see who it was I'd seen before as he was really perplexed as to why I was dismissed! He booked me in for surgery to repair both prolapses. So technically it was prolapse surgery but it did tighten my vagina at the same time if that makes sense. And OMG it is so much better now, honestly I'm over the moon. And my incontinence has disappeared 100% too. It looks and feels like it did before I ever had kids! So pleased I didn't take no for an answer, I bloody knew there was something not right with it!

@WreckTangle95
Just a man’s perspective here.
It sounds as though you’re not in a relationship currently and are nervous about getting into a new one because you feel you might be too “big” and might stop looking because of it until you do something about it.
Was it your judgement, or from the father of your children or a subsequent partner, that you were too big? If a man’s judgement, it was insensitive, and if yours it might be just insecurity.
From the other posts, it sounds like medical work would be risky in itself and might leave you with a recovery time and possibly more problems that might be worse than how you feel now.
In my experience I have had two lovers who were noticeably big and just that’s they way it was. I would no more have commented on it than would they have negatively commented on the size and shape of my penis!
For what it’s worth, one of those lovers was in her early 60s having had 3 babies, and the other was my very first girlfriend who had had none, we were both virgins. I was delighted that both would have sex with me!
I think you should get on with looking for a man you like enough to have sex with, and he likes you enough too, and not worry about any judgement about your size.

Hello @Danceswithwhippets, did you read my update? I just resurrected this thread to say I'd had the surgery and I'm really happy with the results :)

@WreckTangle95

Sorry no I hadn't. That's a great outcome. You should be now looking into auditioning a new man to test-drive the new equipment.

I already have, I couldn't help myself 🤣🤣🤣

That's brilliant op so glad it's all worked out and it's given you confidence which is the main thing!! Hope you are enjoying every bit of your new vagina

@WreckTangleNewAccount

Hello *@Danceswithwhippets*, did you read my update? I just resurrected this thread to say I'd had the surgery and I'm really happy with the results :)

Hi Just wondering what they do to fix things - do they use ‘mesh’? I hope you don’t mind me asking, but your situation may be relevant to me and I was curious about any information you’ve picked up along they way... (Particularly anything you’d do differently with the benefit of hindsight).