Cutting the grass

[maybelaterdear]

Asked my husband if he like to have a lie down😉
Kids are watching a movie.
We've both had some wine with dinner.
He said he'd be in when he's finished cutting the grass!
Should I be insulted?
Can still hear the lawn mower......

No, you should not be insulted.

I hear similar "I'm just doing.....' responses to similar suggestions or invitations frequently every week for years.

I gave up a few years ago and let her make the suggestions.

Still waiting....

I loathe it when dp asks if I'd like a "lie down", it sounds so bloody middle aged! (Disclaimer - we are middle aged, even nearly old actually!).

My mrs asked me if I’d like to “lie down” I’d be up the stairs before her!!

I thought this was going to be a public hair thread. Why didn’t you just say what you wanted? Men aren’t the sharpest tools in the shed with hints

Agree with above ^, I'd much rather DW say something lie "I'm feeling really horny, can we go upstairs and have sex?"

"Lie down" is too woolly for me. From my experience, that would be lying next to each other, an awkward silence, me not knowing exactly what she's thinking, me risking a move to then be rejected, for me to them internally eye roll and wish I'd carried on mowing the lawn.

To be fair, when he says "lie down", he always means sex. So it's not really wooly. But I just find it infantile not to be able to actually talk about sex.

Equally I hate terms like bunk up, leg over etc. An ex used to call it "sexy lovin'" (no g) which made me want to vom.

He did know what you meant did he? If so....weird! 🤭

No, its important to finish one task before starting another. Plus cutting the lawn is an important male chore. Its also a symptom of married life. Hope it all worked out in the end.

@RenascenceWoman

Not trying to be picky, but can I ask why it would be weird if he did know what she meant?

What if he wasn't in the mood?

Blimey. If Mrs Happy wife made such a suggestion she'd have my footprints up her back as I raced upstairs!

In 20 years together, my DW has never suggested we stop what we are doing for sex! I may have tried, but it's something you give up on when it becomes clear you will never get a positive response!

@FinnGermey. Amen