Losing erection

[AllThatJazz92]

My partner and I have definitely both lost our sex drives in the last year and more. We have also been on the brink of breaking up several times. We are together 5 years.

We just had a baby 3 months ago and i am slowly getting my libido back. We have hardly had sex at all since she was born , tried three times and baby woke each time. Tonight we were having sex and after a couple of minutes of penetrative sex he lost his erection. I dont think this has ever happened before. He said he hadn't lost it initially but then admitted he.was feeling under pressure to perform. Any suggestions of what I can do to help him? Or should I be concerned.

I am not very body conscious during sex but I had a c section and have a very wobbly, stretch marky belly ☹

Congrats on your new baby! With any bundle of joy comes worries and concerns.

Having hit my 40s, l’ve known this happen on occasion with a few friendships over the years. As this apoears to be a one off at present, l don’t think either of you should be concerned.

Drink, anxiety (and there is a lot of that amongst many people at the moment) and simply not being in the mood can all take their toll.

I would suggest getting back in the saddle so to speak and see how you go from there. Try not to make him feel under pressure. If the difficulty continues, try switching to oral only sessions for a while, where he may feel less pressure. You may also need to ”strike while the iron’s hot’ so to speak and continue with post play rather than foreplay.

Rest assured, your tummy is not an issue.

(waves at Starlight lady)
Op,
I'm a little concerned that you have almost broken up with your partner, but still have had a child with him, but lets leave that alone for now.

Sex with a newborn is always difficult. Timing things right almost has to be a military exercise.

Maybe he's worried about hurting you?

You don't say how old you both are. Certainly a man in his 40s & 50s can have erection issues - it's very common.

Viagra is available without prescription now, and there is no shame in him buying and using it (or maybe you should buy it for him?)

I'd definitely have a chat with him. Reassure him that you are more than ready to restart your love life.

Remember that he can pleasure you with his hands or tongue (and vice versa! ), and that sex doesn't (shouldn't?) have to be all about PIV.

Good luck!