Husband doesn't last long in bed and doesn't want to switch things up

[needanexcitinglife]

He is in his late 40s and we had a great sex life for many years but for the last 2 years it just isn't exciting anymore. All he wants is me on top or him behind me. I give him a BJ and toss him off which he loves. He never goes down on me or play with me down below. I have tried asking if we can have sex somewhere else other than the bedroom (I suggested on the table in the front room) but he isn't keen on the idea. I've asked about getting a dildo as I don't know why I fantasise about double penetration (without another man involved of course), but again he was disgusted with the idea and saying do I think his penis is too small which it isn't! It's nice average size. Now, dilemma is that he only lasts 2 mins in bed if that.... I am getting so frustrated. I feel bad for feeling this but I love having sex and not getting enough of it is making me think of my past when I had many men who I had incredible sex with. Sorry to be nosy but any men who are in their late 40s to early 50s still enjoy their sex life and can last long in bed? Or is my husband just being boring

I'm early 50s. We haven't been able to have PIV sex for over a year now due to my wife's medical issues but I was always able to last as long as I wanted pretty much and cum when the moment was right. I didn't experience any change in that regard with age, a slight but not significant drop in libido but nothing else.

Sounds to me that he's lazy and doesn't care about your sexual satisfaction. You say he won't go down on you or anything non-PIV. Is that a recent change as well or has he always been reluctant to give you attention?

I can't answer your questions on age issues but I think you need to speak to him. If he refuses to switch things up or go down on you then stop playing with him and no bj. Or say no PIV until he makes you cum

So I’m 50 (just) and my libido seems to be almost as high as it’s ever been. Like @TooTrueToBeGood my wife also has a medical issue that means our sex life has taken quite a hit but when it does happen I can pace myself pretty well though can get carried away unless I focus hard probably due to the rarity of it combined with my libido

As has been asked, has he always been this way?

I think there would be plenty of men who would fully appreciate your libido, interest in sex and willingness to keep things exciting.

Not going down on your or giving you manual stimulation is just lazy and if he doesn't have a specific problem with it, needs to be addressed, especially if it's a one way street.

2 mins must be tough if he's not satisfying you first.

Is he in good health / good shape? Does he have fully mobility and is reasonably fit to enable more variety of position?

get yourself a Staisfyer or Womaniser toy they look nothing like penis but will soon have you talking to Angels and if he wants 2 minutes afterwards let him if you wish , go girl .

That's not fair OP, he sounds very difficult. Mine can be like this sometimes, my libido is way higher than his. Sometimes I find withholding all sexual activity for a while reminds him what he is taking for granted.

Keep talking to him. You deserve a decent sex life, 2 mins is a bloody joke.

OP,
I'm nearer 60 than 50, and my libido doesn't seem to have slowed down much.

I was in the opposite position to you. My XW didn't want anything except (very very occasional) piv, always at night, and always in bed, and it always followed the same procedure....

I wasn't allowed to touch her sexually, and (far far TMI), but I dreamt of being allowed to play with or go down on a woman... Sex over a table or using a chair or in fact anywhere sounds amazing.

It sounds like he has (I'm sorry to say) lost interest a bit. There could be a number of medical reasons for this. Is he overweight? Is he taking any regular medication? Has anything changed with him physically in the last few years?

According to a friend , there are condoms that have a numbing agent in them, that can help a guy last longer, if you are willing to use them.

Get the dildo. I can guarantee it will last longer than him, never be too tired, or not interested in you, and will do whatever you want it to do!