Starting sex again

[rainydaysunday]

Hi Just looking for a bit of advice. My wife and I are in our late 50's and have been together for almost 30 years. As with many similar couples our sex life has disappeared. Its not that we are unhappy, indeed we are still in love with other, affectionate and playful. But we both find it really difficult to initiate sex , something we have discussed and acknowledged but somehow can't find a way to actually having sex. We both want to and we both masturbate when we are on our own. We are open minded, have a few toys to play with and just need to take the first step! If anyone had any advice it would be so appreciated. Thank you Adam x

set yourselves a date night , will need to cook at home or get a takeaway sent in , dress up nice , not too much alcohol , maybe a sexy film to watch then away you go ..........enjoy ( maybe a new toy to use together that night with a new lube )

Thanks Maggie, date night could be fun and as long as we have no massive expectations then it could work.. What I will do is to check Nextflix well in advance for a sexy film as there is nothing worse than spending most of the evening scrolling through trying to find something suitable!

Try 50 shades of grey

Scheduling sex is about as sexy as Tesco’s. If you’re both happy masturbating enough to know each other does it, how about doing it together without the expectation of anything more happening? Once you’re both turned on you might feel more spontaneous