Crap orgasm after giving birth

[EssentialHippo]

I hope someone can help, I gave birth 4 months ago and whilst I can reach an orgasm it is not the take over the body experience it used to be. They are just a bit dull really. It doesn't matter if I'm on my own or partner they are rubbish. Afterwards I have zero interest in anything sexual and then feel guilty/selfish for not wanting to continue but I don't want to be touched. I just want to sleep. Is this normal?

It is probably a side effect of child birth. I suspect it will come back as I had similar for a little while and I find it extremely easy to orgasm. I think it took me about 6 months but after that I was back to normal and often have to get DH not to touch my clit during PIV as it makes me cum so easily.

Are you breastfeeding, OP?

I think it's a hormonal thing. Once DC1 went onto solids and I was breastfeeding less, I enjoyed sex more. Actually, much more than before DC.

It's psychological, too. If you feel like you don't enjoy it, or will feel guilty, it'll put too much pressure on you. Try not to make orgasm the goal, whether with your DP or going solo. Imagine it's foreplay. Eek it out. Stop if you don't get the urge to carry on. Then next time, do it again. Your body will get back in the mood.

I've had much better sex post-DC than I ever had prior to being a mother, but it took a good 6-7 months for me to feel like a sexual person and not just a lactating mother. Don't stress yourself that it's permanent.

Pelvic floor exercises might help too