Orgasm / squirting

[Littlemix1]

Hey daft question but can anyone explain to me what the purpose is of squirting and what it feels like . I've never done this but my partner is keen to try and get me to. What does the build up feel like and does it make you orgasm more intense? Although I have orgasmed over the years (I'm 36) I've never had a proper one as when I feel a build up (or what ever) and can feel it coming I stop myself. Don't know if that's what I'm holding back on or if that's just normal. Like if I'm with a guy or using a toy I do orgasm but as soon as it starts I have to stop. Hopefully you can make some sense of this and give me some advice. TIA

I think when you start to orgasm you need to keep that toy exactly where it is and keep going.

I discovered, for me, having my DH be really gentle and slow when stroking my clit, building up the pressure, but very softly, makes orgasms so intense. It’s the way I am not in control and almost being teased, it’s absolutely the BEST BEST way to get there! Describe it to your partner as though they are touching something extremely delicate. Don’t rush. Keep the tempo gentle. Also playing with your boobs and nibbling your nipples, or pulling them gently, at the same time, can add to the build up. Good luck! 😀

@SexTalkNameChange thank you will give that a try

@Coconuttts thank you will def give that a try think that sounds great and may just be the ticket I need. Hopefully won't find it too long winded but I'm game to try haha. Thank you

I just reread my post and I might have changed my mind. If you think you’ve cum then you’ll want to stop. It’s normal, but maybe just have a 15-30 second break and if your clit is still sort of calling out to you then start again.
I read something else last night, for me not you, which said that when you feel like you’re on the edge of the cliff but can’t quite get there, resist the urge to push harder and harder on your clit. Even though you want to pound it just keep it light, light, light. I tried this just now and it definitely works. She said when you’re at that point, do not stop! I really thought I was finished but I was unsatisfied so I told myself to keep going to the count of 60 which I did and I came again but still felt unsatisfied. So, more oil on the fingers and I kept going for another 30 seconds but very lightly and I came again. I had to repeat this once more and then I felt relaxed rather than horny, although my clit is throbbing but I think it might be due to overuse rather than desire. So, light, light, light and don’t stop. Good luck!

I can only speak from my own experience but for squirting isn’t as you imagine it to be. It’s not like it is in open for example.
I squirt but I wouldn’t call it that, it’s more of a gush. I’m 30 and have been sexually active since I was 16, and only in the last year has it started to happen I have no idea why.
We usually start with me, I orgasm then I have a break and give him oral and I’m usually ready to go again once that’s done. It works well for us.
If We don’t stop after I’ve had an orgasm or 2 I end up a bit sore and it’s uncomfortable.

@SexTalkNameChange wow that sounds amazing. So stop when I feel like I may cum wait and keep going? Then just keep going if i still have the urge? Will definitely give this a try. Just ordered some new toys to keep me occupied on lockdown so will give a go haha

@Loubylou9162 so do you squirt every time now (gush etc). Do you find that now you do that it makes sex better? I like the idea of me getting off then him then finish together so will be down for trying this with OH

@SexTalkNameChange wow that sounds amazing. So stop when I feel like I may cum wait and keep going? Then just keep going if i still have the urge?
No, I didn’t mean that. I meant cum, like you normally do, but then go again if you think your orgasms aren’t full/complete (I cant see what you called it in your OP while I’m typing this.) Don’t just stop at one, unless you feel finished. Stop if you need to if your clitoris is too sensitive straight after but then start again and give the next one time to happen. Don't give up too early. That's what the sex therapist I was reading said. I’ll see if I can find it. Someone linked it on here.

Here you go. I know it’s not your first orgasm but read on: dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/first-time-orgasm

I gush quite a lot. Sometimes in sex with DH. Since very recently, every time I come with masturbation. I’m in a session now - just having a break but I think I’m going to try for one more run 😂 My messy teenage kids have all the towels in their rooms and so I could only find one small bathtowel. It’s so I don’t have to strip my very big bed again. Half of the towel is pretty damp but I’m on DH’s side of the bed as he’s still away.
I honestly think the answer for you OP is just to keep going!
Have you got a vibrator? Try tonight!

For me squirting is extra level to my orgasm, I find it really easy by myself but self conscious with my partner and often hold myself back.
If I let myself go it feels like a warming sensation and pulsing and then a hush of liquid. I used to think it was pee and got really embarrassed but it doesn’t smell like pee and doesn’t stain like pee would.
It’s a really deep and strong sensation and my partner loves it when I let myself go.
I still orgasm without squirting and I had to explain to my partner it’s like the next level as he thought I hadn’t climaxed if I didn’t squirt. I have never done it during oral sex as I can’t bare the thought of my partner getting it in the face, I think he wouldn’t mind but I can’t do it.
Not every woman can do it so if you can the only tips I would give is make sure you have a towel handy.

If it's not Pee where does the gush come from??.....

Pre-lockdown I attended a Squirting workshop (yes, really!) and decided to put what I'd learnt into practice. I bought the Njoy Pure Wand as this was specifically recommended by lots of women for amazing g spot stimulation. I've also found my Tracy's Dog toy really good for this.

After a bit of practicing with position and pressure it worked a treat. More a gush than a squirt. Glad I put a towel down!

I was surprised at the sensation though. I can orgasm without squirting or squirt without orgasming - it's not the same thing at all.

Thank you everyone. Sorry didn't see all the replies

@PinotPony wow didn't realise they did classes. How did you find that? Was it hands on so to speak?

It was a "hands on" workshop with girls who'd volunteered to be guinea pigs! I might volunteer for the next one.
Since lockdown there's been online workshops...

www.killingkittens.com/parties/

@PinotPony thank you shall take a look at that 😁

about 2 or 3 times a year, i wake up having intense orgasms, multiple, sometimes up to six times... lasts in total for about 3 mins - does you ever experience this?

but have never orgasmed in actual sex - only gushing in sex with someone...