Paying for subscriptions to porn....would you be annoyed?

[Sally3388]

So I found my partner has paid for a subscription to pornhub and paid for certain things...I dont know what they are though can just see the amount.

Is this acceptable or not?
I get men watch porn etc but what about paying for it?
I'm assuming they're ate private fan only videos?

** are not ate

I don't know what a subscription would get but no, I wouldn't be happy at all.

Sorry its actually callers ' brazzers '

I cant figure out to edit the post and I'm in a rush

Have you asked him..and asked what it gives him you don't?

No I havent, I went on his phone beacuse something felt off. We dont have sex anymore, he barely touches me etc.

I wouldn't be happy about this, I'd also wonder what it was giving him as surely there's enough free stuff out there?

I assumed live video or webcam or something? I've tried to look but that's the thing, I don't have a clue.

I don't know sorry...but I would assume it is something you won't like but if you are not having sex you need to understand the wider issues as well in your relationship...this being one of them

The real issue you need to address is the lack of sex. If DH wants to pay for porn with his own money, that’s ok however, if it was at the expense of our sexlife, I wouldn’t be happy.

I can imagine that a paid subscription gets you the whole length of films - not just a 10 minute clip and probably access to live cams.

If your sex life is non existent then I'm not sure the response you'll get from asking him about it will be one of any worth. It will probably make you feel even shitter about things than you already do.

Turn your internet off for a start but you need to discuss it with him, saying nothing isn't going to solve anything.

If he's paying, then it's more than just standard porn. When i found my DH doing similar i found he had paid for pornhub premium.. More interactive i am led to believe.... Fucking idiots

I was livid and imo you should be too

I'd be annoyed as pornhub premium is currently free during the lockdown

We dont have sex anymore, he barely touches me etc.
Is this how you want it too, or is this one-sided? (Sorry if it’s one-sided.)

So I'm not in a relationship atm, and although I'm no stranger to porn, I would prefer it to be something of a shared interest with a partner rather than done in secret.
For a relationship to work, on all levels, is this a discussion that needs to happen to avoid finding out anything unpleasant after being today her for a while ?
Not wanting to hijack the post, just wanting opinions on the levels of privacy that people should have, especially if it has a detrimental effects on their sex lives x

Should say ....
finding out anything unpleasant after being together for a while ?

I'm a female poster btw

Personal choice - I used to buy the ‘all men watch porn and ‘cool’ wives should be okay about it’ then I came to my fucking senses and said if I found my husband watching what is in effect abuse of women I’d file for divorce.

(To Lennon 80 - I did think that. Have thought it for decades and told my sons that, too. But I’m not sure that amateur porn is like that these days. I guess some might be but not a lot of the uploaded videos.)

Everyone has there views on pron and thats personal choice
yes I'd be fuming when there is so much free stuff.
Bet he signed up for free trail you normal get the full film instead of short clips that cut out at the good bits , wouldn't assumed it meant porn at a different level and forgot to cancel it

Porn is not the problem, it's the lack of sex you are having together. If there is no sex and he is paying for it elsewhere then this would be a deal breaker for me.
Watching porn together is fun and we also watch porn when alone if we wanted. We don't live together but if we did and it was secretly being watched or paid for again this would upset me.

Paying for porn when theres so much of it for free is just a waste of money. Hasn't he heard of pornhub

Leaving aside whether the DH should be watching porn at all, Pornhub is no answer.

www.theguardian.com/global-development/2020/mar/09/worlds-biggest-porn-site-under-fire-over-videos-pornhub

In brief, Pornhub has been accused of hosting videos of rape, and I do mean in the strictly legal sense of the word. There is no suggestion that Pornhub allowed this knowingly, only that its controls are lax.

Its business model means that well-known actors get paid nothing, or next to nothing. Mia Khalifa's earnings = $12k. In return for that, every adult on the planet has the ability to watch recordings of her having sex in nasty ways. It doesn't sound anything like a fair exchange.