Initiating

[Bettyboop3]

Long term relationship. Other half not confident. Does it matter who makes the first move EVERY time or else no sex? Am feeling undesired & unwanted.

I think it works Both ways .

I don’t think it matters who makes the first move. What does matter is passionate quality sex.

Ultimately I don't think it matters who initiates sex as long as your both you for it. Personally I hate being the one that initiates it all the time I'd like to be with someone who makes the effort and shows that they want to have sex with me and not feel all one sided

Up for it*

Yes, it matters. The person who doesn't initiate is creating the impression they're not bothered, which may or may not be true.

If you leave it a while, see if your partner makes any enquiry as to why you haven't started anything. If they do then you're probably fine, albeit being taken for granted.

If time drags on and they don't make any approach, it's probably time to accept that you're the only one who's bothered.