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Anal. Advice wanted.

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MyNameForTheSexboard · 22/03/2020 14:55

Here I am with a virgin bottom wanting advice. Is it really fun? Doesn't it hurt? How do you do it?

My partner is equally inexperienced, but would like to try it. I'm willing to give it a go although the idea doesn't excite me. I trust him implicitly to stop if it's not working for me. Yes, I am little negative but want to give it the best go possible for both of us.

So, enlighten me please.

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otterhound · 22/03/2020 15:07

Well how about starting with a finger up your bum whilst he is doing other stuff. If you hate that then logically a cock up there wont be nice either.

If that feels great then anal might work as well. Or it might not. My ex like a finger, especially with oral but not a cock.

sosickofthisshit · 22/03/2020 16:36

I love anal. The sensations are amazing. Just relax, take it really slow, and use lots of lube. Enjoy 😁

fantasmasgoria1 · 23/03/2020 04:54

If the idea does not excite you then do not do it. The advice you have been given here is good but this is only my opinion and experience, its really painful and unpleasant. I know you want to please your partner by trying it but for me the finger didn't hurt but even the most gradual movement of the penis was very painful. It could have just been me but I feel you really have to want it.

rwalker · 23/03/2020 07:33

lube and loosen lots of play before and 1st time rather than sex get on top and sit on him . Lowering at your own pace no thrusting or anything just get used to a cock being up there.

sammylady37 · 23/03/2020 14:30

Plenty lube and he needs to be rock hard.

I’ve also always found it much easier to be actively penetrated by him rather than me lowering myself onto him- so I usually go on all 4s with him standing behind me.

Go slow initially and after initial penetration he needs to just pause and be still to allow you get used to it.

NameChangeNemo · 23/03/2020 16:55

I enjoy anal. I can orgasm from anal alone. We don't do it very often because I'm a bit squeamish about the whole thing. I hate the idea of DH putting a finger up my arse, so I prefer him to go straight in with no warm up, but plenty of lube. Basically pressing slowly, with me able to push back as and when the muscles loosen. Sometimes it's a bit painful, other times less so. But I'm always totally in control. I've also found that once he's all the way in, there is no pain at all. Only good things.

We do it with me on all fours. DH gives me a back rub whilst getting situated. I like the lights off and make him wear a condom, because, like I said, I'm squeamish. But the feeling is very intense, and I find, quite emotional. It's definitely worth trying if the idea doesn't repel you and you trust your partner.

Namechangednorth · 24/03/2020 08:02

I never wanted to try it...don't know why but gradually changed. I knew my then fiancé wanted to try but never pushed it with me. On our honeymoon, I was very relaxed and he gave me a lovely massage, really relaxed and started to get aroused. He started touching my bum and this time I didn't stop him, and when he moved away from there I said to carry in as it felt nice.

Very gradually and using a lot of lube I asked him to try. I wanted him to do it from behind me so I was crouched on all fours but felt comfortable. He was very careful and made sure I was ok but we went all the way and felt amazing sensations.

It isn't the norm for every time we have sex, more special times when relaxed and time is in our side but feels a very intimate experience and I loved I did for him after we got married.

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MyNameForTheSexboard · 24/03/2020 10:25

Thanks for all this openness. I think we will be trying this in the foreseeable future.

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Justaordinarybloke · 25/03/2020 16:21

Hey just wanted some advice. Me and my partner are interested in trying anal both giving and receiving. What lube / toys (or just a finger?) is best to use on eachither .New to both of us do not sure

PinotPony · 26/03/2020 11:03

I'd repeat the previous advice about lube. You can never have too much! Love Honey sell anal lube but I'd be wary of anything that purports to be numbing. It shouldn't hurt if you do it right.

Starting with a finger is a good idea to see what you're comfortable with.

I have to be worked up with fingers and toys (again, LH have a good selection) before my partner and I can have anal sex. Never works trying his penis without some warm up!

We prefer doggy position but have tried me on top so I'm in control. Lots of communication to check both ok.

RosieBenenden · 29/03/2020 18:40

I had my first experience at Christmas. I am 44 and DH 51. I have found half on the bed with my chest facing down my half standing works. there is the bed to cushion and DH can push gently but using his weight to overcome the initial resistance. We have anal about twice a month and that keeps it special. There is some great advice in this thread and i would honestly say once more experienced sitting on top feels lovely. Make sure lot of KY but try riding him and my experience is you may well enjoy. Message if want more advice.

Gin4thewin · 30/03/2020 00:22

Im good with a bit of butt stuff but licking an arse hole isnt something id ever do or ever want to receive

Gin4thewin · 30/03/2020 00:23

Sorry wrong thread, app posted on the wrong thing☺

oldwhyno · 03/04/2020 14:25

Well how about starting with a finger up your bum whilst he is doing other stuff. If you hate that then logically a cock up there wont be nice either.

Not true for all. Like another poster above, my OH enjoys a cock in her arse but not a finger!

Arnoldthecat · 03/04/2020 19:01

id think you would have to be especially careful taking the top position on a man for anal. One false move and you could snap his dick and that would be extremely painful,bloody and have long term consequences,,same for girl on top vaginal sex of course..

Jane1978xx · 03/04/2020 23:11

Try a finger or toys first. Have a look on love honey lots of things on there. I’ve done it before and I wasn’t keen . My bf now isn’t keen either but it’s something worth trying slowly and carefully to see if you do. It doesn’t hurt or do any damage

topsecretlady · 06/04/2020 15:54

For anal sex I think it really helps if you find your man f*cking sexy and really want him to be turned on. I have read that lots of women who have regular anal sex have orgasms slate.com/technology/2010/10/why-do-women-who-have-anal-sex-get-more-orgasms.html . But I don't think most women enjoy anal sex as much as the more standard option. In my view, almost all women do it because your man really loves it and it doesn't feel too bad, in that order.

It can hurt and it can also make you bleed quite easily (that's why it's so dangerous for HIV etc). This all gets better with practice and of course it does depend on how sensitive you are.

Whathewhatnow · 06/04/2020 19:59

Yes. Bleeding. Also afterwards things might feel a bit... weird for a day or two. Assholes arent really meant for that.

I dont mind it with the right person who is careful but one thing where it is better if the fellas isn't massive...

Axcde · 06/05/2020 16:06

Slowly and with a lot of lube.
It often hurts when penetrating
Once in, just rest for a while before fucking
Often gives really intense orgasms, different ones to other sex.

I have also accidentally rammed my cock up an arsehole....genuine accident. I was mortified and she was in agony!
Curtailed that evenings activities...

Be ready, be relaxed, be lubed and be gradual!

Enjoy!

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