"What Else do you Like?"!

[ChangChang]

In first sexual relationship since leaving my abusive ex three years ago. Sex life then was awful - mechanical, all about him, often humiliating for me.
So far so good with new partner - took my time getting to DTD and am gradually building my trust in him and self confidence. BUT. In bed a few nights ago, he asked me the above - and I didn't know how to answer, as I genuinely don't know? It's been so long since sex was pleasurable for me that I really don't know what suggestions to make... Help!

(Male here)
If you're finding it hard to tell, I guarantee he'll be happy for you to show him, guide him. Sometimes that's all it takes. Good luck.

Sorry, meant to say, explore together.

You do know what you like @ChangChang

You have just lost touch with that part of yourself, thanks to the arsehole you were with, that's all.

Tell your new man how you're feeling and if he's decent, he'll understand and hopefully help you reconnect and remember the things you like in bed. Like pp said, show him or guide him if you're finding it hard to say the words.

Relax OP, you'll be fine xxx

Tell him you are not sure and ask if he'll like to help you figure it out 😀

Invest in a subscription to OMGYes then spend some time figuring it out - time and money well spent!