Do men give up on sex at 50?

[Pinkpeone1]

My sex life with DH went from amazing 5 years ago to slowly dwindling to nothing these days.

We don't have children so can't blame sleepless nights. We still fancy eachother (at least he tells me). He just never gets a hard on and has zero sex drive.

It's really an issue for me as I regard it as an important element of a relationship and I'm considering leaving him.

Has anyone been in this position?
Thank you

Could be a dip in testosterone - easy to get it checked with a trip to the GP.

Sometimes they just get lazy. If that's the case, its not fair on you.

A trip to the doctors about low/zero sex drive would be a good start as long as you're sure hes not having these urges but getting relief elsewhere (not suggesting cheating, more wanking )

Good luck

I think it depends very much on the man.

The same question could be asked of women from what I read on here.

58yrs old and absolutely not given up on sex. DW and I approx. twice a week.

Is he intimate in other ways?

Could be he is just lazy or has ED issues in which case he will be avoiding sex because it is too stressful. I did have a period of around 6 months of ED a few years back due to work stress and I panicked about sex but after leaving the job everything was fine and in fact I wake up at least once every night with an errection. I don't find it annoying I find it wonderful.

Good luck

It’s not normal OP

Zero sex drive could mean low testosterone or depression.

No erections could also mean something like diabetes - is he overweight?

My DP is mid 60s & still up for it.

Seeing his GP might help.

Thank you for all.yoir responses I really appreciate it.

He's not overweight but there are thyroid problems in his family so I wonder if that is something related...

My DH is 53 and is still as much into Sex when we met 20 years ago
Is he on any sort of medication for anything certain medication like tramadol amatrypiline can cause a problem getting an erection but only while taking it

He'll no!

Hell. Doh

My bf is 51, I’m 57, together just over a year, we have sex 3-4 times a night, 2-3 times a week. Everyone is different, but age in itself is not a problem

Do you encourage him? Men are easily stimulated. If you stroke and play with his cock and it begins to harden,im pretty sure it will be game on..

no

From reading this forum, it seems that some men lose interest in sex in their twenties!
I am 47 and like a dog with 2 dicks, no different to when I was 27!

I'm only 2 years off 50 and haven't given up yet and have no intention either.

Mrs PC is over 50 and she most certainly hasn't given up!!

Do women give up sex at after having kids/menopause

Plenty (and the majority of my males friends) would attest to the affirmative on this kne.

otterhound I gave up on sex with my husband after I had children with him because his inability to take responsibility for them made me lose all respect for him snd I couldn’t share my body with him. I divorced him and I’m now post-menopause, shagging myself stupid with a new man. Obviously that’s just my experience. But some at least of your friends may want to take a long hard look at themselves and their behaviour for an explanation.

I’m seeing a man in his mid 50’s. He’s completely up for it all the time. If he’s like he is in his 50’s I can’t imagine what he was like in his 30’s!!! Totally different to my late husband who lost interest before he was 40

Oh ok Tiger, so what you are saying in a roundabout way is that it actually the op’s fault her partner doesn’t want to have sex with her?

@otterbound

You must be new round here - you'll learn with time that double standards are rife and problems of this nature are always the man's fault.

As I said quite clearly, that was my experience only. I don’t believe I’m unique, nor do I believe I’m the norm.

Erh no prawn I’ve been around for years and years and am very aware of MN bias amongst some posters. Hence my reply....

And to be fair to Tiger i dont think she usually posts on ‘I’m not getting any sex’ threads

@otterboubd Forgive me, was tongue in cheek.

I marvel at the disparity between advice on similar threads that all too often points a finger of blame towards the man - there's almost a check box list of reasons for people to pick from...

He's gay
He's having an affair
He must be a porn addict
He has death grip syndrome
He needs to see a Doctor
He's not sharing the mental load (only when woman doesn't want as much sex, never an issue when the woman has the higher drive)

My colleague in work no longer wants sex with his wife currently because she constantly nags at him, refuses to do anything fun, spends all night on her phone, has put on 3 stone in weight and slobs around in joggers and baggy T-shirts all day, so he simply doesn't feel attracted to her anymore.

But it's always the man's fault.

mines 61 and worse than ever more like a teenager!