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Is DH unusual

18 replies

ihaveaquestionplease · 08/03/2020 20:42

DH and I have been together for 9 years, married for 5. We're early to mid 30s. We have sex fairly regularly (2 or 3 times a week depending on where I am in my cycle).
He has never, ever had any trouble getting it up or keeping it up.
Is that unusual? Is it something that will change as we get older perhaps?
Reading this forum and speaking to friends it seems he's fairly unusual.

OP posts:
dementedpixie · 08/03/2020 21:03

I've been with dh for 20 odd years and there have not been any erectile issues in that time

MsReturntoLife · 08/03/2020 21:51

I think DP and I are quite a bit older than OP or PP and there has been no problem.
I had previously been with someone who was never "able" so this is a pleasant outcome.
I was constantly being told that I had to be kind and understanding with the ED partner. No-one ever considered the damage it was doing to me and my confidence.
I am very happy with DP

Osirus · 09/03/2020 00:34

Mid to late 30s here. Together for 14 years. No issues either, ever.

PhilCornwall1 · 09/03/2020 04:15

No, he is not unusual in the slightest. Late 40s here and never had a problem.

labazsisgoingmad · 09/03/2020 09:14

my partner is early 60s and has had problems due to diabetes but we have found ways around it. i think as you get older its just one of those things you cope with together

MadamShazam · 09/03/2020 16:37

My OH is early 40s, been together 9 years, never had a problem getting it up either!

Opentooffers · 09/03/2020 17:38

Never come across it in under 40's, some over 50's. Depends on fitness and lifestyle. I'd say your DH is not unusual at his age.

mamato3lads · 09/03/2020 19:12

Not unusual at all. In 18 years with my 38 year old husband has never once failed to get it up

Quailpoop · 09/03/2020 19:52

Same age at OP, same amount if sex roughly, DH also has never had any erectile issues and the only times he's ever refused me is when I'm days away from my due date and trying to get his jizz to make me go into labour. Apparently this is not a turn on.

Branster · 09/03/2020 20:03

DH is a lot older than that age bracket and we’ve been together a lot longer than 9years and never had this issue. In fact, I am not convinced it is as common as it appears to be based on MN posts. Saying that, we’re not at it like rabbits all the time and just go with the flow (times when we have sex very frequently, and times when not much happens, it depends on our travel schedules, available time, time of the month etc) so I don’t know how it would ‘work’ if we were to do it very regularly all the time on some sort of schedule.
I’ve never wondered about this and don’t understand why you might be in any way concerned about it.

MyWorriedHusband · 09/03/2020 21:02

Mid 30s here.

If anything I wish my DH sometimes did have a problem getting it up. Wink

Even if we're just cuddling in bed it's tapping at me!

Viletta · 09/03/2020 22:38

Sounds pretty usual to me.

oldwhyno · 11/03/2020 16:21

I've never had problems except one solitary time. It was quite early on in our relationship (i.e. like rabbits) and I was 20's fit and healthy. I've never found out what went on that night. Just had to give up, and then the next day it was fine.

MonkeyClimbing · 11/03/2020 21:28

DH and I are both 60 and have been together 44 years.
DH has never had a problem getting or maintaining an erection. He can still last for as long as he chooses and ‘go again’ when required. He reckons years of Kegel exercises have helped.

Alonelonelyloner · 14/03/2020 14:20

Sounds perfectly normal to me!

Arnoldthecat · 15/03/2020 22:37

No issues here :)

thumpingrug · 16/03/2020 01:10

Mid 50's here. It goes up and stays up without problem. Takes a bit longer for the second and third time though.

Childrenofthestones · 01/04/2020 13:35

Never happened. In fact I get erections now like I used to in my twenties and still don't lose them after coming and can go for round two which has been a great bonus in the past.
This isn't humble bragging.
The truth is having such a strong libido is a pain in the ass as my missus is going through the menopause and hers is flat lining.
Tbh I like the Kingsley Amis quote about the relief upon losing his sex drive. He said it was like being set free after being handcuffed to a lunatic for most of his adult life.

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