I hate giving BJs

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So as the title suggests, i am not a fan.

I dont like it in my mouth, I dont like the taste and I always feel like i am going to gag. He loves them, so i kind of feel i need to woman up and just do them without the face of disgust.

Dh has been patient but it keeps coming up in convos now. How do I get past the URGH factor and just do it to keep him happy?

Erm you don't have to do it? You don't have to do anything sexually you don't want to do. Just like Im sure you wouldn't expect him to do something he hated just to please you.

No i want to, i just want to enjoy them if I am going to do it.

He's a giver, I want to be able to give back without feeling it being urgh lol he has mentiones it and we've spokeb about it but hes never pressured me

But op if you don't like having a cock in your mouth then you don't like it! Don't really know what advice you're expecting..

What about trying it in the shower. Less to taste maybe? Also you can use your hands as well as mouth so you have less cock in mouth sensation. A nice tasting lube might help too? Xx

@Kittykat93 Hahah i know, i am just seeing if anyone started off hating it then loving it

I shall suggest a shower and see how I get on!

You really don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
A previous partner was well into giving and never asked to have the favour returned.
Current partner is not keen on it either giving or having, so we don't and are perfectly fine.
I could not advise you how to go about finding enjoyment in doing something you don't seem to like.

How has he made it to being your husband if he doesn't know you don't enjoy this part of sex?....

For me the trick is to think about my partner's pleasure. If any of us is brutally honest then we would probably admit that the taste of our partner's sex organs is not up there ranking alongside chocolate. Giving oral sex to either gender is in and of itself not a wonderful experience. However, I do actually very much enjoy going down on my partner, because she obviously loves me doing so and that's the key to forming the right mindset for me.

Try some lube? Ann summers has some lovely ones that could help with the taste

@maa1992 thanks for the suggestion, just got a few bits (needed to buy underwear!) including candy floss, apparently tastes very nice!!!

Use your hand at same time so your party wanking him, your hand will also stop you going as far as gagging so just suck a tiny bit harder for the sensation. Are you going as far as letting him cum in your mouth or finish him off by wanking him? You need to make which ever clear to him.

Why not learn how to give him the best ever hand job instead?

Giving oral to either gender and feeling their reaction should be a wonderful experience.

Nobody should do in the bedroom what they don’t want to do. That said, l am pleased you have found a “giver” and l’m responding on the basis that deep down this us something that you want to do.

Cleanliness, is of course vital and can make the difference between making a blowie a lovely shared experience or otherwise.

With the right head movement and level of suction, I can usually bring men off “hands free” which men seem to prefer or you can use your hands to assist.

Your comfort is paramount. Take him to the back of your mouth but not to gagging point. Break by running the tongue over the shaft. Think ice lolly rather than drinking straw.

If you are going to take him right through to celebration, take him to the back of the mouth at that point (taste buds are largely at the front), you can feel the pulsation change. Ensure you are in a comfortable “drinking position” and it will flow straight down, any taste should be minimal. Obviously, if you are doubled up you will have a problem at this point.

Finally, real men kiss afterwards.

No issues with kissing afterwards as long as it's not snowballing.

If you don’t like giving BJs then don’t let him come in your mouth at first, we don’t mind oral play then pulling off at the last second. Letting him come over your face or chest is just as good. Letting us come in your mouth then pulling a face then spitting out makes us feel we’ve done something gross.

Someone above mentioned learning to give the best hand jobs - do this and gradually introduce some oral play, licking the shaft and balls as you wank him, then licking along the shaft and over his bell-end, then progress to closing your mouth over his bell-end and licking it while wanking, you will see women in porn spitting and dribbling over a man’s bell-end, helps with lubricating but may also help with the taste?