Long term relationship - condoms only

[NemophilistRebel]

I am intrigued by hearing of a male friend who’s last long term relationship (10 years) where hos GF insisted on condoms only whilst also being on contraception

I was surprised to hear it but then I wondered what the reason behind it could be

The ex has since met someone else and had a baby recently.

Male friend looking back feels strange that he just assumed it was normal and how all relationships are but is questioning it now having asked a few female friends for their opinion which seems to differ.

I despise condoms and would never want that. PIV isn’t the same i don’t think.

Maybe she didn't like the mess?

Maybe she wanted to be extra careful to not get pregnant.

Maybe she was sleeping around an didn't want to inadvertently give him and STI

@NemophilistRebel

DD#2 [now grown] was conceived on Boxing Day morning all those years ago on the one occasion that we failed/forgot to use the condom!

!!!!

She was probably sleeping around behind his back and didn’t want to give him a STI.

Didn’t like the mess.

She could of regularly forgot her pill so it was extra protection just incase.

Everyone’s different. With a long term partner I used condoms everytime but I didn’t take the pill

I had an ex like this. We were together for 8 years and he always insisted on using a condom. Turned out he was sleeping with men and women whilst with me. I'm glad he did.

Use condoms, not glad he slept around

Sex with condoms is pretty rubbish, although better than no sex at all, just.. They disrupt the normal friction in an unpleasant way. It does seem its worse for guys but women say this too and one of the good things about an established trusting relationship is doing away with them. As for the mess mostly people seem to view this as part of the fun and quite manageable. It would also be helpful if the scientists could come up with a drug based male contraceptive.

"Sex with condoms is pretty rubbish"

But if this is what you've always done, you'd know no better.

I've spent years of my life on hormonal contraception, being bloated, angry, and sad. I was fed up of being the one responsible for not getting pregnant, and being driven bonkers in the process.

Then I needed the implant replacing and the only GP who could do it in the area I live went on an extended leave for 3 years, so I had it removed, and we use condoms. It's really not such a big deal.

The only time I used condoms was whilst waiting for vasectomy results. Neither of us liked them (ex always pitched afterwards) . Pulling out method worked fine but also liked to cum inside her and not just on her tits.

I know someone who was on the pill and also used condoms with her bf, she was about 20 at the time and said she just wanted to make sure she wouldn’t get pregnant.

I personally have never been on contraceptive pills so always used a condom in long term relationships. With my current partner, we don't but we have both been checked and he also never comes generally.

My husband and I use condoms.

I like that it means no reliance on hormonal contraceptives for me. I like that they’re safe. Reliable. Painless.

We use condoms and the pill purely because I've fallen pregnant on every form of contraceptive we've tried so we've now doubled up, DH can't get a vasectomy on the NHS and we can't afford it privately, thats the the way it is.

Well is up to her. She has her reasons. Wouldn't be for me. I love feeling him cum in me and whilst need a wipe after I love knowing and feeling what is there. Just a nice part of the intimacy. Can tell as well how turned in he was as there is a lot more🤭

would also be helpful if the scientists could come up with a drug based male contraceptive

I read about this, if I remember rightly one was trialled but abandoned because of the list of side effects, which was only about a third as long as the list of side effects for most female contraceptives 😐

Anyway! Condoms! I know lots of people who double up on contraception (i.e. pill + condoms) so I don't think it's that unusual.