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Advice please!

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FibroWife · 03/02/2020 17:12

Since my fibro diagnosis (and before the diagnosis if I'm honest) my husband has gradually shown less and less interest in sex with me. He's always been a very courteous lover, making sure I'm satisfied and that everything is good, but now even when we do get going (maybe once every 5-6 weeks if I'm lucky), we don't often finish because he loses the arousal. We've managed to talk about it (very difficult as you can imagine as he doesn't like to talk about it) and I've come to the conclusion that he's afraid of hurting me. I hurt anyway, it really doesn't make that much difference, but he doesn't see it like that. I still want a sex life, cos even if it does hurt afterwards, it feels good at the time! Any suggestions on how I can help him get past this? Simple reassurance doesn't seem to be working :(

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noego · 03/02/2020 22:36

Get him to give you a full body massage with CBD cream. It will help with the fibro and might turn him on.
Cream is available from Holland and Barretts

outherealone · 04/02/2020 01:07

I have fibromyalgia as one of m conditions, it has literally not affected any of my lovers, inasmuch as they still seem to get the horn and finish the job, I get repeat customers. I do have a lot of pain after but as you say, you’re in pain already...
I went to a fibromyalgia management course at the hospital and they had one session where partners could attend. My then partner was a useless sack of shit but maybe yours could do with some help around your diagnosis too. Worth seeing what’s around through Nhs and local support groups

Oldrockman · 05/02/2020 11:26

I have fybro, after sex yes I will hurt an awful lot the following day but it is not something I want to give up. Yes there are times when pain takes away the desire and some of the pain killers caused minor ED which was very upsetting. I just worked around the issues that it has caused as best I can, the thing is it is my choice to end up in pain after and would feel if the wife stopped wanting to do it using that as a reason quite upset. With others in this thread or have it or similar it should be down to the sufferer if they want to have sex or not.

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