Help! Fab meet

[SwishSwishBisch]

I am going for a (strictly social) meet with a guy I met on Fab tomorrow. I’m all of a sudden totally stuck for what sort of convo we should be having. I am totally new to this world so not sure where my expectations should be sitting. We’ve spoken over text about what we’re looking for so aside from reassuring myself he’s not a potential axe murderer, what other topics should I be covering?

I'd love to know too! Just joined last week on basis of discussions here. It's a bit daunting.

The weather - you cant go wrong with that.

Make it light and not about sex - you've already covered that in texts.

General chit chat wouldn't go into too much personal detail (work/family).
Would be good if you had set a time to be somewhere else say u meeting at 2 you need to be away by 3 .
hopefully you are meeting somewhere public so you could be overheard so there will be no sex talk.

Rules and boundaries

I just generally chit chat... Like I would any other normal person I don’t know.

How did it go?

I talk about their other meets, when they are available, if our schedules match, what they like/ don't like, what I like/ don't like .... and try and have a laugh with them ;-)

I went for a meal with my wife 18 years ago. We chatted for ages, the restaurant kept bringing us more cups of coffee and we just talked. That was our first date.

The second date started in the same restaurant and ended up in my bed having the best and most wonderful sex I'd ever had. 18 years later and now married all is still wonderful.
We just talked as we were so at ease with each other, we still talk a lot.

It's lovely when you meet someone you just click with 🥰
Although this guy might not be marriage material OP but you never know ;-)

Well, I went! He was an absolute revelation. So easy to talk to and just very naturally warm. Tons of chemistry, I was definitely more nervous about the whole thing than he was but he really put me at ease very quickly.
I’ve done (possibly more than) my share of ‘normal’ internet dating, I really do think Fab just removes all the smoke and mirrors. I haven’t had such a wonderful refreshingly honest conversation in FOREVER.
We’re planning to meet up again in the next week or so

Glad if went well!

I’m currently meeting one guy from fab and we seem to get on great.

See him once a fortnight on average

@SwishSwishBisch Glad you had a good time .... Don't let him love bomb you - this is strictly professional business ;-)

Aren't they mostly married/partnered?

Do you mean married / partnered and swingers ?? Or married / partnered and being unfaithful??

But there are loads of single people on fab.

No, they are normally pretty open about being married. No need to lie I guess. I met a good few single guys and turned down offers from those who were married.

The ones that are married normally just say they are married and only looking to hook up.

I find it a bit depressing that the majority view on MN of Fab is that it’s just full of cheaters. Sure, there probably are plenty of people on there for that but they’re easy enough to filter out after a bit of questioning.

Guy I met for social is now an awesome FWB. Enjoying getting my rocks off with someone who can have a proper conversation about sex and treats me with great respect. Beats the game playing on Tinder!