So my bisexual boyfriend fancies having a man

[Sheena40]

Exactly this, he just fancies oral with a man and wants me to join him. It won't be sex, just oral in a casual swingers setting. I knew he was bisexual but guess I'm worried he will love it again!

If you're worried he'll 'love it again' then you're not comfortable with an open relationship.

Have some self esteem and say no.

To be honest, if my husband asked that of me, he'd be kicked to the kerb instantly.

@BillHadersNewWife we do go to swinging places but this is the first time he has mentioned men. I'm actually ok to join, it's just brought the idea of men to the forefront and made me feel a bit insecure

I think honesty is the only way with stuff like this

You sound open and non judgemental so just tell him how you feel....if you know him well enough you can judge a lot by his reaction....but tbh I think hes just telling you like it is....you enjoy swinging and this time he fancies oral with a man....hes not hiding that fact so try not to be anxious
But do talk to him x

@mamato3lads thank you for the advice. If we had been swinging, I wouldn't have thought anything but it's only because he told me outright it's something he was craving, that threw me a bit

It’s a real difficult one. I think you knew the score and he’s being honest. However, if you’re not comfortable, don’t do it

@NameChangeNugget i think I brushed it under the carpet a bit but I guess I'm not obsessed with women myself but the fact that he craved a man's cock somehow surprised me a bit. Its the word crave.

The problem with swinging is where to draw the line. Being bi then to him having a cock is no different but I think women view it differently, at least some do.

I wouldn't agree to this at all. You don't feel comfortable so he needs to know this. In swinging you have to stick to boundaries...although I can't speak from a position of knowledge as never done it. Wildest experience was a foursome on holiday years ago!

@Namechangednorth the thing here is that he said he only fancied c* in that environment, not outside. Just that next time we were there, he would want to do that. Not that he wanted to do it in our normal lives. It still felt weird but thinking about it now, I think he meant he was just open to anything.

..... er, if he's bisexual, he will fancy cock.

If you're into swinging, and you know he's bi, I'm surprised you're surprised really.