DP is having trouble getting and keeping erections. Is Viagra the only option?

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Hi. I think the title pretty much explains this one. But here are a few more details. My boyfriend has been having trouble getting and staying fully erect before and during penetrative sex. He gets semi-erections in the morning, but it goes soft very quickly when he gets up. He is a gym enthusiast, healthy eater and doesn't use any drugs. He is only 29. He is quite embarrassed and stressed about it. I am definitely not an expert on ED but from what I have read it usually only affects much older men.

I have mentioned the idea of going to GP about it but he isn't keen on the idea. If he does decide to go, is it likely that he would be considered too young to have Viagra prescribed? I am wondering if anyone has any experience with their husband or boyfriend having erection difficulties. How did it get resolved (assuming that it did)?

I am not 29, in fact I am 63, but I have been a part-time user of Viagra for about 16 years. Yes, ED is more common as one ages but it can strike at any age.

As we know, there are many potential causes of ED. It could be physical, medical, or psychological, and I think he really does need to visit his GP in order to rule out some of the more worrying causes. If he self-prescribes Viagra and he has underlying problems, then he could end up having problems.

His GP isn't going to be embarrassed and I am sure will go to great lengths to put him at ease. Would it help if you offered to go with him? As my dear old mum used to say, 'Company is good, even if you are going hanging.'

He needs to go to the GP. Erectile dysfunction is pretty unusual in a young, physically fit man. Some heart conditions can cause ED. He must get it checked out.

It could be a mental health and/or anxiety thing. Counselling could help.

Was it always like this? If not I'd also be considering the possibility of an affair (or at least desire) outside the relationship. This would also explain why he's not too keen on going to the doctor.

This is interesting:

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5313296/

At 29 i dont think he should resort to viagra. He needs to think about whether the issue is psychological or physical. I would suspect the former if he is fit and healthy.Trouble is when its happened a few times,that flag is raised in his mind and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

I think OP has enough to worry about without someone suggesting he may be having an affair. I’m surprised we haven’t seen the two word response of ‘death grip’ also. If a man was having an affair it may diminish his desire to have sex with his partner but it wouldn’t cause ED. If he’s getting only a semi of a morning that is suggesting a mechanical problem rather than psychological, plus I don’t think a 29 year old should go on viagra unless it’s prescribed as a short term solution to overcome the issue, it won’t be good to be using it for the next 40 years. I would also suggest a visit to the doctor. Good luck, hope it works out.