Constantly talking about past encounter

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About 8 years ago, when DH and I were much younger and before marriage and children, we had a much more varied sex life and after one evening of far too many drinks had a kind of threesome with a friend of mine.

Now we are older and obviously have a family our sex life has taken a bit of a nose dive, tho we still have some form of sex or intimate contact 3 or 4 times a week. (Although this still isn't enough for dh and it usually ends up being a quickie at the end of the day or before work)

Dh keeps going on about previous events and how I still owe him another threesome as u drew the line of him having sex with her, tho let her do pretty much everything else to him.

I am finding it mentally draining constantly being asked for another one. I don't speak to said friend anymore (she moved country not long after and is now married with a child herself) so I wouldn't know where to start on organising one. Plus, although I enjoyed it then, that was then and in the past and not something I want to do now.

Dh has asked if I would let him go and have one on his own without me which I have refused.

I’m not sure what you are asking here. As with any sex thing both partners need to consent. And if he goes and does it alone then that is cheating.

Its really unfair of your dh to constantly pressure you to engage in a sexual act that you do not want to repeat, but even more so that he is also more than happy to go off and have one without you! It seems he has very little respect for you or your relationship. And also, sex 3 or 4 times a week is a good amount! I would be very clear with him that you will not be having another threesome, and no, he can't just away and have one with someone else, unless he wants your marriage to be over. Just don't give in to his pressure OP.

Feck me what a cunt!

You dont owe him another 3 some. You don't even owe him sex.

Tell the entitled fuckwit you have organised a 3 some with his mate Fred.

I think you have to be BRUTALLY clear its never happening again.

Absurd. Your husband is totally unreasonable. Sounds like a little of “I’m getting old and wonder if that’s my lot”.

Threesomes are for everyone involved - not so you can forget your own partners needs.

So what he is asking is permission to cheat and have an open marriage against your will?

Many years ago and with my then boyfriend, we were in holiday with another couple in a villa. So,e drink one afternoon coupled with games and having a laugh, we ended up with flirting, touching and then a full foursome.

I can't deny it was wild and we all enjoyed ourselves sexually. It was also strange but a turn on my bf seeing another man have me.

But all this is in the last and whilst I have find memories I wouldn't do with my now DH..and I know you did your threesome with your now DH but perhaps as you think, better leave in the last and both try slicing up your sex life and keep to just yourselves. All the best

You should never do anything you don’t want to do OP.

Hes actually asked if he can go and have one without you!? I would of packed my bags and told him he can f* who he likes now!! Give them an inch and they take a mile...feel for you OP, no one can compete with an old experience that he cant seem to understand that 1. He was damn lucky to get in the first place and should just be grateful for that and 2. You've been there, done that and got the shirt. Arranging another one seems like it would be opening a huge can of worms, especially as he cant let go of the first one.