Swingers Clubs

[newyearnew]

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My partner and I are thinking about going to a swingers club for the first time. We won't be actively swinging, we'll just be having fun with each other in public.
I'm just a little nervous, what if we see people we know, what on earth do I wear to go there?!
Just wondering if any of you lovely MN people have been before and what can we expect. I've read reviews but nothing answers my specific questions!!
Thank you

I'd recommend joining Fab Swingers, there is loads of helpful info on the forums there. Lots of similar questions plus more on Do's and Don'ts, etiquette etc.

Also there is a section for club reviews to help you pick the right club.
Although I'd strongly recommend looking at The Vanilla Alternative

Thank you, that's the club we were looking at going to. I'll take a look

It's a fantastic club. Love it there, would highly recommend it

wear something you might wear on a Saturday night out (dress & heels) take some underwear and maybe a bikini with you. I have been to one and it was a bit like a nightclub from the 90s 😂 drinks in the bar and then you strip/ change into undies to use the rooms. They have changing rooms with lockers. It was fun

Are some of them just thinly disguised brothels where a few females "work" posing as lone females during the day to hook mug punters in ? probably during the quieter daytimes ??

I thought about suggesting visiting a club to my wife. Then I found out a really vile bloke from work was boasting about visiting the same club. I'm so glad we never went.

@Spasiba lol!! This is what I'm concerned about!!

I went to one for the first time last year. Found it very awkward and a bit naff. All kinds of people there so was an experience but no sex. Had a few drinks and me and dh said have you had enough and ended up leaving after a couple of hours. Ive since met someone off fab and that wasn't much better

I've had a look on fab at the various swingers clubs, I really don't know how I will feel. I want to go but until recently it's never been a reality. As I said in my original post we don't want anyone else involved just something we want to do together

@newyearnew don’t worry about being spotted by someone you know. They’ll be as anxious as you and equally keekLen to remain discrete. You shouldn’t be ashamed of wanting to go to a place where grown adults consent to being voyeurs or engaging in sex with others. For some people it’s entirely acceptable and if you see people you know, they obviously share your views.

Clubs are the best place For you to test your appetite for swinging IMO. You can go, remain anonymous if you wish, not get involved in conversation until you are comfortable to do so, and there is no pressure. I’d be inclined not to arrange to meet anyone you don’t know for your first visit - It avoids saying no when someone may have wished for a yes. Their problem, not yours, but just easier to avoid the scenario.

Let me know if you want more advance!

Would highly recommend Killing Kittens. Workshops, socials and parties. Female led so "Toms" cannot approach "Kittens".
I went to a party in November and had an amazing time. 180 people there! Dinner and a Burlesque show followed by lots of naughty fun! No pressure to take part either. All very relaxed and friendly,
And the chat rooms are amazing, full of friendly kinky people.

I've heard Killing Kittens is expensive, and caters to the "beautiful people". There is (I think) a site called Silver Kittens for older people, and that right there annoys me and puts me off.

By all means go to a swingers club, with no expectations, and treat it as a night out. You are under no pressure to do anything with anyone, (most people are respectful, and understand that no means no - for the others, report them to the management or staff). Maybe just having sex with your partner in an unusual environment would be enough.

KK costs about £20 to sign up. My single ticket to the Kabaret party at Proud Embankment was £40 (although I did stay over in a hotel) So not ludicrously expensive unless you want to go to parties in Venice or NYC!
There is a chat group for Silvers but also ones for Couples, Singles, Kurious or Filth! Depends what you want to talk about! I found the whole community to be friendly and non-judgmental- you can ask anything!
There are plenty of normal bodies too - ladies with CS scars, men with bellies - but the attitude is that all bodies are beautiful.
I agree with PP that you don't have to join in, can just watch or be watched. Going to a drinks social (no playing) would be a good place to start...

Thank you everyone, there is definitely some helpful tips. What would you say is the average age or does it vary hugely? We're going to go at the end of Feb when we've got a weekend free, but all I'm worried about is what to wear there!! I know what the dress code is but what do women actually wear to go?

Op,
Ages range from mid 20's up. I've seen people in their 70's at clubs.

Expect to see all sorts of ages, shapes, sizes, colours and creeds.

As to what to wear, it's up to you. I'd suggest you wear whatever makes you feel most sexy / confident / comfortable. Maybe treat it as an ordinary night club.

Quite a few women wear "normal" clothes to arrive, and then get changed into something much more revealing once they arrive / things warm up, so you could take some lingerie, if you are comfortable with it.

Some clubs have saunas / hot tubs / swimming pools, so maybe take a bikini, but expect a lot of people use these naked / to play.

So we've been and had the most amazing time
I don't know why I was worried at all, it was just like being in a normal bar to begin with, people were so friendly and everyone chatting.
We just enjoyed each other's company for the evening, but having others around us also enjoying themselves was a turn on! We are definitely going back when we can, would recommend trying it out to spice up your sex lives!!

Fetlife has lots of reviews of various clubs and great forums too, well worth a browse, and caters to any fetish you can think of. In terms of swinging clubs, extremely safety and respect focused too.