Reaching Orgasm with BF

[cosmicbabe]

Hello, been with a new partner for 6 months. He's by far the best lover I have had and previous partners have never managed to make me come.... But My question is, does anyone else struggle to reach orgasm with a partner, or have you before and how did you overcome it? Sometimes I can try for an hour and still nothing. Yet alone I can orgasm under 5 minutes. It's starting to be the elephant in the room now every time we have sex. Previous partners haven't really cared and I've faked it but this guy is a giver and I really don't want to fake anymore.
Thanks for any advice.

I just sort myself out or get them to do it. Very occasionally I come through having sex but I generally need to masturbate or have clitoral stimulation from me or the person im shagging

Most women don't orgasm all the time, some hardly ever, but there is a lot more to enjoying sex than that.

We are responsible for our own orgasm.

Do you climax from oral? If you do, then you know what you both need to do.

Otherwise, you know you can get there by yourself. Get him to hold you while you enjoy your own celebration. Orgasm shared. You might want to hold back from the going hell for leather in 5 minutes though.

I’m assuming you’re trying different positions?
I rarely orgasm with missionary, but always do when on top and can control friction and movement.
Also, don’t stress about orgasms ‘must’ be delivered via PIV - if oral or manual stimulation will do the job, then get your orgasms that way.

From my experience women cum /orgasm through oral & foreplay which I love doing. Another way is to find a position where he can be inside you with you holding a vibrator on your clit, taken from behind was a personal fav.

Thanks for the feedback. I guess just keep on trying and not overthink it.

If you are both open and comfortable, how about you masturbate till you are very close then he takes over with his tongue/penis. And/or you masturbate while he is inside you. Teamwork. If this does the trick then gradually reduce the amount of time you spend on yourself...

I have never orgasmed through penetrative sex. I do though oral or touching. If he is caring, like you say, can you direct him as that will help you both?

I have found that some men dont care (so I never orgasm and I leave those relationships ) some do care and some direction helps them. Some are really caring and keen and will spend as long as it takes doing whatever it takes to get you off.

Also, I have friends who make themselves come rather than letting their partner do it for them. The danger with this is that the guys then lose confidence/interest to do it themselves and just leave it to the woman to sort herself out...

StarlightLady hit the spot. I think that is where you both need to start.

Stop masturbating...sounds like the equivalent of the male death grip. When you are desperate I suspect you will orgasm especially as he seems to know what he is doing.

I wish I could hold off more 😆

Do women generally enjoy clitoral stimlation from their partner during PIV? To me it seems to be the only way to achieve orgasm during the act of sex and should be something your partner us more than happy to do to ensure both parties are satisfied....

Use a small bullet vibrator or try a vibrating cock ring , trust me that will work

Thanks all. I can report that 8 out of 10 times I now orgasm with my new BF. I've relaxed and he puts no pressure on me and we've just got used to each other's touch ect.
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Thank you cosmic babe for the post!

Yay! Well done!

Good one! It’s always good (and often rare) to hear how someone gets on after an initial post.

Now assuming that 10 isn’t going to happen strive for 9!

Remember regular orgams are healthy and keep stress away.