Foreplay/oral

[Justaordinarybloke]

How long do women like partners to spend on oral/foreplay before PIV? I love going down on women and normally spend around 20min on oral or at least till she has had a orgasm then PIV with nipples getting attention at same time. Very rare I'll go inside her before shes had a orgasm.

Justanordinarybloke: "hopefully find a women on the same level as me".

Women? Women? You need to remove the 'a' or you're trying to be obscure and will claim you made a typo. Yeah right.

(How many women?)

@StarlightLady
The biggest lesson I have learnt over the last 10 years is how the monthly cycle affects a woman's desire. I don't know if it's the same for all women but it explains why my DW will be interested in sex on 2 consecutive nights and very happy for me to go down on her, but then have zero time or interest for the next 3 weeks! For us it's feast or famine.

@FinnGermey - l am pleased there is some understanding as to where the cycle comes into it. It also applies to response times. This varies over time with age too.

I have sat on the fence as to how long, because we are not “timer driven”, but I would say 30 minutes oral would be more appropriate than microwave style instant sex at 1-3 minutes.

Starlight - what is appropriate for you will not necessarily be appropriate for others.

I had thought you understood that very basic concept- i guess i’m wrong

...and maybe what a woman understands about the female body is greater than what a man understands about the female body?

IME a woman needs to feel desired, the feeling of being desired where she can let go of the stresses of life I.e. she has nothing on her mind to distract from the experience that she is about to enjoy is key. I also think it is more likely that she is receptive to feeling this way at certain times in the female cycle.

It's not about setting an egg timer, lapping at her clit and expecting her to open up, there are many other factors to consider.

So for example you might have got her into bed, and you might be giving her oral, but if she's thinking about dental appointment she needs to make, you could be there for hours without any effect.
So you need to get in touch with your feminine side OP. Understand that a woman's sexuality is not about her clit

I expect there are two methods of estimating time here. Similar to the London Underground where a District line one minute is shorter than a Northern line minute, and a lot shorter than one on Southern trains!

Though the time a man says he spends giving oral is less than he claims, the time he takes to orgasm (can last) is also less than he claims.

Cervix position also changes during cycle hence length of time to orgasm/ways to orgasm

For me anyway!

This thread is my favourite in a long time.

For me, potentially hours. I dare thee to try!

@Justaordinarybloke pm me too 😂😂😂

About 2 years and counting...

Great thread lol. I’m another guy who’s favourite place to be is with my head between her legs. And I’m not talking about a wrestling move

I don't enjoy oral so what would you do then OP.I also hate my nipples being tweaked.
It's more brain based and then my body but not zoning in on my tits and clit straight away unless it's a spontaneous quicky.
Foreplay can just be kissing if you're in the right frame of mind,it may just be a look or it can be long an slow.

I normally get bored before she orgasms as it takes so long. I'll give it 20-30 mins, but after that, my mind starts to wander and I get bored, wondering if I'm doing it wrong and feeling flat and deflated the moment (for me) is then lost.

I've had a partner like one of the previous posters who would orgasm in a few short minutes whether from manual, oral or PIV. I didn't even have to think about it.

My experience tells me that every woman is different. it's just a shame my DW finds it so incredibly difficult to orgasm via any means.

Have you incorporated toys into it?

@PrawnSacrifice - like @Justaordinarybloke suggested. Add in toys. A wand would be my recommendation.

Statisfryer pro gets me off in minutes and it is so,soon good .

DW normally requires at least 20 minutes with a high-powered vibrator. I normally dress up in a hard hat and a fluorescent vest before I begin.

@Blokenamechangesexboard - do you not have a head torch?

So much for romance, affection, desire, anticipation, seduction........

Yes, toys are part of the equations - doesn't speed things up at all - some people just take ages to orgasm, some with very little effort.

My partner is really good at oral and probably takes about 10 min to make me come. It hasn't always been this way but his view was every woman was a puzzle and you had to find what suited each! I laughed at his logic but when he figured out mine, then my mind got blown!

So much for romance, affection, desire, anticipation, seduction........

I feel like the odd one out here, DH can get me off with his tongue in about 2 minutes or less.
He’s also the only man I’ve ever been able to reach orgasm with purely through PIV without needing clit stimulation.

IME they like being treated as individuals because that's what they, and we, all are. Don't try and apply some kind of formula or it will be rather robotic. Work with a new partner over time to learn what they like and what they don't and work with them so they can learn about you. A woman's most sensitive erogenous zone is her brain - focus on that first and foremost.

This ^^