Being shared

[RosieBenenden]

DH is 56 and I am 44 and been together since 1999. We have sex usually twice each week and talk openly about things with each other. DH has for a couple of years wanted to watch another man making love to me and he has shown me films on porn sites on the subject. His fantasy is simply to be in the same room while I have sex with someone else and him to watch but NOT participate. I am considering agreeing to do this over Christmas and wondered if any others have had either negative or positive experiences? Advice welcome.

@Loveablers,
One man's meat...

@loveablers she wasn't, she's obviously happy with her choice, you on the other hand sound like you have done issues

@tyersal,
My thoughts exactly & the reason for my earlier comment, which I have just realised could be misinterpreted...

If you cannot understand why someone would be excited by the idea of sharing their partner, it is probably best if you simply say that, or even refrain from commenting. Making nasty remarks about other people's sex lives and morals is in no way helpful.

It depresses me that some MNers visit the Sex Forum not to broaden their minds, or to seek knowledge and advice, but to denigrate others.

I found that comment quite rude really. Plenty of people have different desires and why simply post just to pass judgement. I can see that this particular situation could be very exciting but a lot of trust is needed. My partner would be ok with it but I think I'd be quite wary especially if she fitted a type whom I knew he was attracted to.

@xpc316e - so well put .

Never under estimate the chemistry of passion.

No idea, so I can't contribute in any meaningful way.

Read this thread with interest and then realised it was 5yrs old!

Ive indulged with this with two partners now and personally know two other couples that have too
Has it worked out positively? I would say on a percentage scale it’s about 70-30 positive x

Reported - yuck

Lovely, we all really wanted to know that

Yeah, sure you do.

RosieBenenden Where are you now in your Journey? How did it all turn out for you and your partner?

Some don't seem to get that there's a difference between fantasy and reality. Once you've made it reality, it can't be undone. If it's more wishful thinking, that's different. I fantasise about stuff sometimes that I absolutely know I wouldn't want to do in reality, that's not unusual. If it's wishful thinking, that's not fantasy, that's when you want to try it out, that is wishful thinking. Fantasies don't need to be tried out and are happy staying in the mind.