Being shared

[RosieBenenden]

DH is 56 and I am 44 and been together since 1999. We have sex usually twice each week and talk openly about things with each other. DH has for a couple of years wanted to watch another man making love to me and he has shown me films on porn sites on the subject. His fantasy is simply to be in the same room while I have sex with someone else and him to watch but NOT participate. I am considering agreeing to do this over Christmas and wondered if any others have had either negative or positive experiences? Advice welcome.

@Loveablers,
One man's meat...

@loveablers she wasn't, she's obviously happy with her choice, you on the other hand sound like you have done issues

@tyersal,
My thoughts exactly & the reason for my earlier comment, which I have just realised could be misinterpreted...

If you cannot understand why someone would be excited by the idea of sharing their partner, it is probably best if you simply say that, or even refrain from commenting. Making nasty remarks about other people's sex lives and morals is in no way helpful.

It depresses me that some MNers visit the Sex Forum not to broaden their minds, or to seek knowledge and advice, but to denigrate others.

I found that comment quite rude really. Plenty of people have different desires and why simply post just to pass judgement. I can see that this particular situation could be very exciting but a lot of trust is needed. My partner would be ok with it but I think I'd be quite wary especially if she fitted a type whom I knew he was attracted to.

@xpc316e - so well put .

Never under estimate the chemistry of passion.

No idea, so I can't contribute in any meaningful way.

Read this thread with interest and then realised it was 5yrs old!

Ive indulged with this with two partners now and personally know two other couples that have too
Has it worked out positively? I would say on a percentage scale it’s about 70-30 positive x

Reported - yuck

Lovely, we all really wanted to know that

Yeah, sure you do.

RosieBenenden Where are you now in your Journey? How did it all turn out for you and your partner?

Some don't seem to get that there's a difference between fantasy and reality. Once you've made it reality, it can't be undone. If it's more wishful thinking, that's different. I fantasise about stuff sometimes that I absolutely know I wouldn't want to do in reality, that's not unusual. If it's wishful thinking, that's not fantasy, that's when you want to try it out, that is wishful thinking. Fantasies don't need to be tried out and are happy staying in the mind.

my ultimate goal is for my wife to go to bed with her lover after a nice meal with wine with me as the maid serving at the table in a maid's uniform so her lover knows that he is in full control of the situation. When they have retired to bed I will wash and lay the table for breakfast. IN the morning my wife will ring the maids bell fhat she keeps by the bed and I will serve them morning coffee. Then when they have showered amd dressed I will serve then breakfast before her lover leaves with me thanking him for pleasing my wife and him telling me he will call again when he is ready to use her for sex and me😮 as an obedient maid

I wish to be kept by my mistress in a stable chained to the wall so I cant escape and then harnessed to her pony cart by her lover so they can drive me to the shops. When they return home i need to the fastened to the hitching rail by my reins and left there until she wants to use me again

These are very exciting accounts of peoples experiences but my ultimate experience wish is as male maid to be dressed and treated as an obedient maid servant for a dominant married couple with orders that if my housework is done in the evening I will stand in the hallway facing the wall untill summoned by the maid's bell or have to answer the door to visitors.

Can someone close the old fucking threads ?