Premature ejaculation

[Justaordinarybloke]

What is your perception of premature ejaculation? We hear a lot about it but in reality what is classed as PE? I once read the average guy lasts 2-3min or I think around 60 thrusts. I'm usually in that category first time rnd, bit longer second, if I've got a 3rd in me can be as long as 10min. I've never had any complaints as I make sure I satisfy partner first with plenty of oral and foreplay before we go for PIV.

Well it is what it is i guess. Its not a race or a competition .

Well... if my wife was a man she’d have it in spades....

So I guess it boils down to how quick your partner is

I think it’s usually to describe ejaculation before entry for PIV

www.health.harvard.edu/a_to_z/premature-ejaculation-a-to-z

If 2 to 3 mins is the average time between entry and ejaculation then i must have severely retarded ejaculation

2-3 mins?! I’d be disappointed with that.

I’d be disappointed with 10 mins of PIV though.

My last partner could stay hard for as long as I wanted and wouldn’t cum until I said I was done and then he could cum in under a minute.

I can’t for some reason cum via oral so that would be no good for me.

I would count PE as cumming before you even entered though.

I'm a man so maybe my perspective is a little different on this. When DW and I have had a bit of a gap say a couple of weeks I would have had a bit of a hair trigger. There were a couple of answers to this. One was that I would masturbate a couple of hours in advance of our 'date' or if it was spur of the moment I would cum quickly but carry on after a while you rise to the occasion again and last longer.
It wasn't such an issue if you don't put yourself under pressure about it.

I work for a sexual health charity and when talking to people about condom use we inform them that a condom has a design life of about 30 minutes before a new one is needed, but that an average man is going to orgasm with under 5 minutes of thrusting.

However, I also come from a mathematical background and there are a number of different averages: there is the arithmetic mean, the mode, and the median value. All of those will probably be called 'the average' by someone without a background in statistics, and there will probably be quite a difference between the various values. I have not been able to get hold of the actual research that we quote in our spiel, so that 5 minutes is pretty much open to interpretation.

I think that we need to think along the lines that there is no such thing as normal. Sometimes I can orgasm quite quickly, even though I have no wish to, but on other occasions I can go on for ages with an ability not to cum until I flip the switch and then orgasm within a couple of minutes.

Wouldn’t want too long. So long as there is foreplay. I had a partner that lasted way too long and it made me sore and quite frankly I felt I wasn’t turning him on enough if he couldn’t climax.

I have two experiences of it. One was a long term ex partner who would frequently ejaculate before PIV, but if we made it to PIV he would last seconds. I wasn't bothered because in my previous relationships I'd never orgasmed from PIV anyway, and he always made sure I did first with oral (if he could last that long..
Sometimes he came when giving me oral ). I'd also had a relationship with someone who took ages and ages and did nothing for me and I hated that.

Fast forward many years and I do orgasm from PIV and now I wouldn't go back to that first set up. However, sex is so infrequent with DH because of young kids and alternate work shifts etc, that when we do have sex, if he hasn't had any alcohol, he is ejaculating prematurely. And by this I mean we kiss and it's game over. It's strange because there never used to be any issues like this whatsoever, he had great control. I mean absolutely no touching not even close to PIV. And he doesn't offer to reciprocate, just laughs it off. And now I don't want to have sex at all, it's a HUGE turn off. So it's really a big issue. I'm pretty sure he does not masturbate and this is the problem.

With the ex who always suffered from PE our whole relationship, he never admitted it at first. He'd just disappear to the bathroom just as things were getting heated and say he wasn't ready etc. That's a pretty shitty thing to do. I've had it with a one night stand but recognised it, darting off to the toilet mid shag and then pretending they aren't in the mood anymore. It's shitty, just own it. As a one off someone is more likely to feel flattered than pissed off.