Casual sex and protection

[Amicrazy121]

Just asking, do people use protection with oral as well? I'm nervous as to what sorts of protection we should be using. Obv condoms with strangers but what about oral (giving and receiving)?

I’m a man - If it’s casual sex then I’d be wanting to use condoms for oral on me. I’d try and avoid oral on her. I appear to be in a minority in this thinking. I get that it’s not much fun either way. I guess life would be better if one could find a trustworthy and exclusive FWB, and then you wouldn’t need them at all.

@newman2018 thanks for responding. We are contemplating swinging which was the reason for the question. I'd want to be able to give and receive without condoms ideally.

You need only to talk to my friend who was a nurse in a sexual health clinic. She has tales of gonorrhea in the throat that would really turn you off oral without protection.

The odds are that it will not go wrong for you, but it does go wrong for some people and not using protection does shorten the chances.

I’ve never used a condom for oral, lots of partners in that aspect and I’ve avoided catching anything. You can get flavoured ones though which might work better for oral.

@xpc316e yuck that really puts me off now!

I can't imagine using condoms for oral truthfully.

The rubber lubey smell of condoms alone is just 🤢 and I can't see how using one would be terribly enjoyable for either party.

Surely the guy isn't going to feel much through a condom?!

Somewhere along the line people got the idea that oral sex is less "serious" than PIV sex. This is not the case.

Putting a condom-wrapped penis inside your vagina is reasonably safe as things go; putting an unwrapped penis in your mouth is not to be done lightly.

If you do do oral without protections gargling with Listerine cool mint for at least 1 min reduces stds by 52%.I work in a sexual health clinic we are seeing a lot more caese of oral gonorrhea & even syphilis

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Here is a good read. After reading this, you might think twice about things !

Inconveniently oral sex is risky, even if it seems like a natural preliminary with a new partner. It also doesn't work really with barriers. Until you have some trust it is better to stick to kissing, mutually masturbation and sex with condoms. I guess you weigh up the risks and take your choice.

I have been involved in swinging on and off for nearly 20 years and I’ve never seen anyone use a condom for oral sex.

That’s fair enough Stuckinarut81. How many people in your swinging circles have you known to have picked up an std/sti in that time? Be honest!! I’m not trying to prove anything but am just very curious to know. I’ve looked at swinging sites and see a lot of adverts where they are ‘back after a break’, which I’m guessing could be a forced absence due to an infection.

None that I’m aware of but I guess it’s not the sort of thing people bandy about. I think people are more likely to take a break due to going from being single to being in a relationship and then becoming single again. Or just wanting a break, I know I can go from being well up for it to having no interest whatsoever.

If someone caught an std these would mostly be sorted with a quick course of antibiotics or whatever, a ‘break’ tends to be a few months or years away from the scene.

I certainly would use condoms for everything if I was a younger person 'on the circuit'. I cringe when I think of the risks I took as a single girl but a lot of us did then, as long as we were on the pill and didn't become pregnant we weren't worried. I was fortunate not to catch anything, there was plenty of disease around then though not incurable. However most of us settled down and married in our twenties and what went on before meeting our partners was usually with other young people like ourselves.

Safe sex is definitely the order of the day, health is precious.

Interesting stuff and I’d agree with you Bluerussian. Clearly I’m not cut out to be a swinger then, back to looking for a fwb.....

Before I married I enjoyed having ONS most Friday or Saturdays and admit never used condoms to suck guys off. I knew a risk but for me it was a precaution too far. Take your Durex obviously coz you want him to penetrate you during the one nighter but honestly hun just enjoy the rest naturally.