Not enough sex

[poorlyb]

I’m 25, dp is 2 years older. We been together for just over six months. I have a toddler. (Just a bit of background) We have sex maybe once a week on a good month, to me this is very little, I feel this close at the beginning of a relationship it should be more frequent. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just skirts round the topic.. anyone any thoughts/experiences/opinions?

I can only look back at when I was 23 and although it is 40 years ago I can remember that had I been in a relationship for just 6 months I would have been making love at any, and every opportunity. Indeed, I have been in my current relationship for 15 years and at almost 63 I have sex at least once a week.

BUT, we are all different and what works for me is not going to work for others. There is nothing wrong with the frequency of your partner sexual desires - as long as they fit well with yours. It seems they don't, and that is the root of the problem. Mismatched libido does not usually lead a smooth relationship and talking about it with your partner is likely to result only in short term improvements. Long term improvements are about as possible as a leopard changing his spots.

I wish you well, but unless you are willing to deny your sexual needs it does not look wonderful.

Sounds like your libidos are not compatible. Some people would say once a week is a lot, though to me, and obviously you, it is a bit on the low side. But if he isn't engaging with it, and you have only been together a short time, you need to consider whether this relationship is going anywhere.

Totally agree. Half the threads are about mismatched libidos and if mumsnet is anything to go by the frequency falls pretty much universally and never increases. Avoid unhappiness. Worse it will get.

I can only look back at when I was 23 and although it is 40 years ago I can remember that had I been in a relationship for just 6 months I would have been making love at any, and every opportunity this is spades!!

Him skirting around the issue means there's something going on there. If you're really really really super keen on him then try and get that out of him. But, seriously, it's unlikely to get better for you tbh.

Why? You want sex to fill a need not show love. Wank

@FabbyChix - so what if she does? And why shouldn't she? Her sexual needs are important and just because you have decided it's not important to you in your relationship, doesn't mean it shouldn't be important to her in hers. Stop projecting your agenda onto OP.

OP, it's only been six months. You're already unhappy with the frequency of sex. If i were you, I'd be asking him for more and if there was no improvement I'd sack him off. You deserve great - and frequent - sex. Hell, everyone does.