Really sore and burning after sex

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Help please, just lately every time I have sex with my long term partner I am really sore. It is excruciating to pee and sometimes reduces me to tears because it burns.

I have been diagnosed with BV, the doctor keeps giving me anti biotics but surely it shouldn't keep happening. He gave me 7 days antibiotics last month it seemed to clear the problem and I was having great sex again but after 2 weeks I'm having the same issue.

Is it BV related or is it something totally different? It's so hard to keep going to the doctors, doing swabs, waiting for the hospital to analyse the sample before finally getting treatment. I'm so stuck I really enjoy sex but not when it leaves me in so much pain for days after

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Is it a UTI? I get this. Drink huge (I am serious HUGE) amounts of water. Expect to spend half the day on the loo peeing. Don’t try to hold it, just keep pouring water in the top and let the pee out the bottom. It normally takes me until mid afternoon to feel better.

Condoms make it worse, scented lubricant also. I have latex allergy so need to watch for that. It helps if I stay well hydrated the night before and if I pee immediately after sex.

As long as I do all that I avoid it and at the first sign of a slight pain or itch down below I drink like a fish for the day. That normally heads it off.

Thank you I will try this from now on @XXXXXX42 I think it is the start of a uti

Cranberry Juice and water for a UTI loads of the stuff and always pee after sex.

I sympathise. Here are the things I have found useful.

1. I also have BV at my last check up but as I am asymptomatic (no smell or discharge) it's not being treated, especially as I have some allergies to antibiotics.) BV doesn't cause vaginal pain.
2. Do not ever put any kind of soap or shower gel inside your vagina. You're fine to wash your vulva with them (e.g. the inner and outer labia) but do not use internally as it will upset the pH balance. Your vagina is a self-cleaning internal organ. Do not take baths with bubble bath etc.
3. Don't allow your partner to finger you internally. He may well have excellent hand hygiene but the pH balance of his hand will be different to that of your vagina.
4. Use a good lube. Don't use anything "flavoured" as that can be very irritating. Experiment to see which brands are best. I favour Skyns and Liquid Silk.
5. Experiment with condoms as well. You may find you have a latex allergy/sensitivity and respond better to some than others. Skyns are the best non-latex for me. Durex are shite.
6. Always go for a pee after penetrative sex.
7. Drink lots of water (this is good advice for life!)

A word on lube. Some men seem to have an inferiority complex where they think their magical foreplay skills will mean no lube is needed. I simply explain "some women produce lots of natural lube, but some women like me don't. It's not a measure of how turned on we are, it's just how our bodies work." You may also find that certain contraception methods can cause vaginal dryness.

Adding extra lube makes condoms much safer.

Happy shagging OP, hope this helps!

@FuriousVexation will definitely try using lube but not a scented one.
And thanks here's hoping it is happy shagging from here on in😂

I'd add that vaginal dryness / wetness changes during the month for me so lube is not always a requirement. I second the comment about Skyns. I am currently trying to find a lube I can get along with. The Silicone ones work best but Im not sure if they are contributing to my UTI issues. Durex play ones are a bit sticky and claggy but definitely don't make me sore.

It's a bloody minefield! All I want is to get laid without having to spend the day after peeing for Britain and downing litres of water!

@XXXXXX42 exactly!! Is it too much to ask for

Just to check are you using condoms?

I have had this as I think I have an issue with latex.

I definitely do have an issue with latex so buy latex free condoms. Recently had to ditch a dildo that obviously had a latex component.

Yes xxxxxx certain sex toys containing latex have also caused issues too.

I get a treatment gel called Balance Activ which is a 7 day course which keeps everything under control.....

I always pee after sex and if it's not too awkward, shower up quickly to keep everything at bay, it's a strategy that's worked well for me and stopped any of the pain.

You have my full sympathy though it's a horrible feeling with the burning.

Is he getting tested too?

I had exactly this issue, including UTIs, burning, pain during sex. It was awful, with my long-term partner. I'd already been tested for things before him and I was clear. Turned out he had chlamydia and must have had it for a long time. He had given it to me, I got PID and it was a real shit show.

I don't understand why the doc is t testing for other things as well or did I misread?

I would agree you need to get fully tested for everything going. Make an appointment at your gum clinic and ask your partner to as well. I'm not insinuating that either of you have been unfaithful but you need to be widening the net of possibilities.
I had the same with my new partner for about 5 months, constant rotation of thrush and uti's it was a nightmare and really affected my confidence/sexual enjoyment/stress levels.
We both came back clear thankfully, I think our pH levels adjusted to each other but I always have canesten with me, cranberry juice in the house and make sure I drink lots of water. Having gyane issues all the time is a drain!

This used to be a problem for me, turned out I had a long-term case of otherwise symptomless thrush. I agree with other posters on here, get checked for everything at a sexual health clinic.
Whatever you have, your partner probably has it too, so make sure he also takes treatment or he'll just give it straight back to you. Men can have a lot of these awful infections without any symptoms or discomfort at all (bastards).