Sex and money

[Shopper21544]

I have been with my partner for five years and we have continuously clashed about the amount of financial support she needs.
The wrangling has increased recently because her daughter wants to leave home but her fledging career won't fund her living costs.

I am being expected to fund the difference but I think this is asking too much. Now my OH is withholding sex - clearly in response to her powerlessness on financial issues.

I cannot think of any way of breaking the deadlock other than separation. I have tried dropping hints to the stepdaughter but she is in her own creative world. AIBU?

Do you live together?

Yes

Does your partner work? You have said that wrangling over finances is not new-can you expand a bit on that?
I do not think you should be subsidising her daughter's living costs, that should be her parents responsibility, if at all (I am assuming she is over 18).

If your partner is withholding sex to manipulate or punish you, that is out of order. Of course she can decide she does not want to have sex with you for no reason, that is her perogative. But to use it as a weapon is disgraceful and doesn't show a lot of respect for your relationship together.

Has this happened before? Have you spoken to her about it?

Bin her off

You shouldn't be paying for her daughter. Withholding sex to try and get her own way is abuse. Get rid asap!

We words digger and gold come to mind.

Have you always been expected to finance her and her children?

Dump her. And if you have children of your own make sure you don't have mirror wills as she’ll have the lot!

The above is if you dont dump her