Sex after serious illness

[MoominCake]

Two years separated almost divorced, I've now fallen for the most fantastic guy. We're both mid-30s.

Surgery for a previous life threatening illness has left him with total loss of feeling in most of one leg so certain sex positions are tricky! Added to this his treatment has very quickly made him put on weight and he's not massively body confident but getting there now and back at the gym/work etc.

First time in my life I've really taken the lead in sex and quite enjoying it, but going on top doesn't feel amazing. Partially because I'm struggling to get a rhythm and he doesn't feel really deep and gets a bit tired after a while. The first time we had penetrative sex we just gave up and did a 69 😂

I would love to have him behind me, but kneeling for him is not an option.

Anyone else managing a fulfilling sexual life after lots of body changes? Creative suggestions welcome!

Good for you for taking the lead!

No personal experience, but a couple of suggestions.

Can he sit? If so, get a (sturdy!) chair, and he sits on it, then you can try cowgirl / reverse cowgirl. You should get some good penetration

If he can stand for a bit, you kneel on a bed, then he can take you from behind whilst standing.

You could also try behind with you lying face down, and him on top (I think its called froggy style?)

Both lie on your side (think spooning) - he should be able to take you from behind in this position.

Good luck, and have fun trying some new positions!

Ah thank you! This has definitely given me ideas! The good thing is that I think we're both quite adventurous and willing to give anything a go. Oddly even though 'technically' it's not working like clockwork as such, we are having fun exploring what's possible and just having a giggle, but obviously it needs to satisfy both partners.