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How to cum with piv

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Cantrememberhow · 29/09/2019 18:40

I've been with my dp for several months but we've been slow to start having sex. It's been a loooooooong time for me. The sex is wonderful and loving and what I want but I haven't come.

He isn't very confident in some ways. I don't think he's lazy or uncaring but wants me to guide him. Trouble is I know when I've come with exes it was always through clitoral stimulation and piv but can't actually remember how. Sorry if that sounds ridiculous but I was a hell of a lot younger and so were they.

For reasons I don't want to get into I don't like doggy, but if he's on top how does he touch me too? I know it used to be possible?! I have been on top too but not made it plus I just feel distracted and slef conscious if I touch myself while he is inside.

Am I being thick? I feel a bit embarrassed that I don't knoe what to tell him so I'm falling into old patterns of just trying to make him happy and not bothering about me but I'm feeling a bit useless.

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Otterhound · 30/09/2019 14:29

Well rather than him lie on top of you like an old fat walrus he goes on his haunches that way both hands are free and he can use a thumb.
No reason for him not to use his hands when you are on top.

Or spooning, he can reach round....

SomewhereInbetween1 · 30/09/2019 17:30

Pretty much what Otter said. If his hands are either side of your head, he won't be able to balance whilst getting you off. He needs to lean back and circle his thumb on your clit. Alternatively, go on top but have him sit up so there's a source of friction.

StarlightLady · 30/09/2019 20:06

Not important. If we start enjoying our orgasms and stop worrying about how we get there, the world will be a happier place.

SomewhereInbetween1 · 03/10/2019 19:05

An yes, because not attempting to understand what we like or what works for us is totally useless in comparison to just enjoying when they happen to come 🙃

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Cantrememberhow · 03/10/2019 19:26

Thanks for replies. @Otterhound and @SomewhereInbetween1..that sounds familiar. @ fat walrus!
You must think me weird for not remembering how it worked before but it was soooo long ago and being older, fatter and after bad marriage, I honestly have blanked on some of this stuff!

@StarlightLady I know what you are saying and yes, I am going with that to an extent but I would really like to not ignore my needs or wants in this relationship. That would be progress for me and I think it's important. The only orgasms I'm having are solo!

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Dinks66 · 03/10/2019 21:56

Relax and get on top. Sometimes you have to be selfish! But most of all relax.

CanIhelpyouatall · 04/10/2019 19:03

Try going on top with him sat upright. The sofa is good. Then you can grind against him.

waterSpider · 04/10/2019 19:29

side by side during sex, plus him leaning away a bit, makes clitoral access very easy.
You can have them squealing for mercy ... but that's another story.

CursedDiamond · 05/10/2019 09:21

Doggy is perfect for me, but if that’s off the table, try him ‘on top’ but more on his knees, so no body in you. Put a pillow under your bum, which changes the angle of your pelvis and means either him or you can get to your clit. Bonus of being able to see each other.

Arnoldthecat · 05/10/2019 19:31

Three techniques i have used..

Woman on top,i slip a hand under one of her buttocks by reaching behind and under her to simultaneously spread her labia which exposes her erect clit and with the same hand using my index finger to massage her clit. I dont think my arms are outrageously long, more like normal so it isnt a big stretch,,helps ig partner is reasonably slim.

spoons,,suing my uppermost leg to rest her uppermost leg on so that her legs are open,enter her from behind and from behind use a hand to spread her labia and massage her clit

Missionary,,very easy to penetrate her deeply and massage her clit

CauliflowerBalti · 06/10/2019 16:43

If he is in top and you do a quarter turn, so your leg is on his shoulder, it provides fabulous access for his hand, or alternatively means he can lock pelvises with you and grind.

It would be helpful if you had a picture, but I'm not going there.

noego · 06/10/2019 18:17

Table ender. You on your back, legs over his shoulders. Get him to massage the area between your navel and pubic bone whilst thrusting.

You're welcome :)

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Cantrememberhow · 06/10/2019 20:10

Ha.. Its all sounding familiar. Will report back... Though my period has been non cooperative this weekend and won't see him for a little while now.

Thanks guys! Knew I could rely on you lot

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Cantrememberhow · 06/10/2019 20:11

Well.. Maybe not all but liking suggestions!

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Osirus · 07/10/2019 01:35

I find that missionary is the best for climaxing whilst PIV. I lift my legs up and back, sometimes pulling them back as far as I can, which DH loves. I guess it changes the angles and helps with friction but I’m not sure; I just know it feels incredible. Also, as suggested above, being on top with him sitting up.

In these positions, he never needs to use his hands.

yellowallpaper · 12/10/2019 10:56

Not sure why but I found a sure fire way in missionary by altering my leg position near the end. I slip one leg in between his legs, so that it goes, his leg, my leg, his leg my leg. No idea why it works but it it's much easier than having to fiddle about myself down there

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