Pubes

[Tiger785]

I'm Male and shave every thing down below, I feel more clean and fresh for doing so, my partner has never said anything about it, she also does the same which I like as I love giving oral. What's your thoughts on this?

Why are you asking? If you're happy and she's happy, what's the problem

I think it's actually quite an interesting question. As a mid 40s woman, when I was young and out there shagging a lot, pubes were totally fine, everyone had them. Now it seems you're meant to shave it all off! I knew about Brazilian waxes, Hollywood etc, but never done that, and if it's come up in conversation, none of my friends do either (similar ages). I was surprised to find out a couple of years ago that it's a thing for men now too! And most women. Porn culture again maybe? Each to their own, but I'm hanging onto mine. A trim and shape, sure, but personally I don't find the whole lot off attractive. Particularly on a man. Each to their own though!

I don't know where it is generational completely. I think definitely the younger women are, they tend to shave or wax completely. It isn't a routine topic for my friendship circle but on a wine fuelled night out we did discuss. 6/8 of us either shaved or waxed with everything off. The remaining two either trimmed heavily of partial shave/wax. I know from changing at the gym that I would say a majority tend to also shave but don't keep a count lol.

I don't know about blokes as haven't really discussed it with DH. He goes through phases of either being well trimmed and sometimes he shaves it all off. I like it all shaved off

You have to go careful of this topic on MN because the MN Moral Police can wade in and tell others what they should do with their bodies.

I’m not a fan of a bush on men. It’s not particularly practical and can quickly get sweaty. Having said that (forgive me for stating the obvious) men usually have more body hair than men and I think it can look a little strange if it suddenly comes to a complete halt.

From my own perspective, female, 40s now and I’ve been a baldie since my teens. My choice and not to please others.

I suspect the porn influence is very overstated. I think the biggest influence has been the brevity and/or high cut of underwear and swimwear. And women in the know will be aware it increases sensitivity, particularly during oral.

A sexual health nurse I know says she rarely sees a hairy pie these days. Shame as for me it is the most natural and sexy. As for me, the few times I have tried shaving it has been pretty uncomfortable. Not really sure why a guy would do it.

@StarlightLady agree so some extent. Porn is probably an influencer but I suppose it is a long running fashion by now, originating from the 90s I guess.

I used to have a bikini line wax done and sometimes shaved more...beautician suggested I just let her wax as far as I needed. Eventually I tried a full wax to see. First couple of times were a little eye watering but now is just run of the mill as part of a routine beauticians visit. However DH much prefers, as he says men are simple visual creatures lol, and I must admit I do now, probably as I'm so used to it I guess.

Clearly I'm not in a minority, at least in my age group anyway..and I'm not 20's!

But I'm also of the view that women should do what they please and not feel pressure to do anything

Personally find no hair down there on a man unattractive. I think because it doesn't seem manly. I'm probably in the minority though.

Before late 90’s you would have struggled to get a Brazilian wax anywhere, even in london
I’ve never shave/wax waxed my pubes and wouldn’t expect to be asked to. Equally I’ve never asked a woman to - but then i prefer pubes to the bald look.

I have a Hollywood as I prefer to be hairless down there. It makes me feel sexier and enhances sex for me.

Having more recently spent a lot of time on naturist beaches, it took a while to notice and realise that there seemed to be an etiquette of sorts, and the men were mostly shaved/waxed - I have to say they seem well presented. I sort of favour this look now. (Rather than something resembling a sea eagle’s nest!)

My partner has decided to sport a well trimmed “christmas tree” design, minus the baubles - though I don’t know what the doctor and nurse thought when he went for a full medical last week!

Despite being rather (ahem) mature myself, I am going a bit more extreme with my tidying to fit in with the naturist crowd, but have retained a chinook landing strip (space for 2 large helicopters) so I don’t look out of place in the gym changing rooms at home.

A question for the ladies.
How do you get on with having less hair in the summer? Do you feel fresher without hair?
I'm 41 and plus size and get so hot and sore sometimes. Full bush here.

Love hair on a man, I don’t find it attractive if a man is fully shaved, trim I can deal with. But I can’t stand hair on me so I shave it all off. It was rather awkward trying to shave it when I was heavily pregnant but I somehow did it!

I’m not influenced by porn or anything to be fully shaved, I just don’t like the feel of hair down there. I remember when I got my first few hairs I remember cutting them off! In the end I gave up but I’ve fully shaved since about 14.

My partner is a plus size and she uses veet, reduces the blotchy itchnes from shaving. I remember reading a post from a doctor saying since people have started getting rid down below there has been a massive drop in std (crabs) so that can only be a good thing.

Boopeedoop, I personally feel cleaner and fresher down there for lack of hair. I started off with more of a landing strip and it's reduced over time. Partly as the number of white pubes has increased. I don't do it because of porn or some imagined society pressure, I have no idea how much pubic hair my female friends have and nobody has ever asked me about mine.

I do like it when men make an effort to trim, but I think entirely hair free isn't a necessity.

My ex had a full body wax once (although he had very little hair to wax) for an outfit he was going to wear, I really really didn’t like it at all. Thankfully he hated it as well so he left everything once it had grown back.

I’m not very hairy, I just have a quick trim once a week.

Hair removal is nothing new. A full wax (no fancy names then) was available in London and Paris in the mid 1940s. It wasn’t advertised back then, but certain establishments offered it. Clients were often ballet dancers, whose outfits often lead the world in brevity.

Looking back in history, the ancient Greeks removed their hair back in circa 3000 BC which is why so many statues from around that period do not have hair depicted. It is not due to poor sculpting.

A few tips:

1. Waxing gives a smoother end result than shaving but you need to wait for the regrowth period, where as daily shaving is possible if you desire.

1. Make sure you go to a salon which offers hot wax.

1. Never be waxed just before a period. Far more ouchy!

1. If you wet shave use a good quality propriety hair conditioner so the razor glides. Not soap or shaving creams.

1. If you use Veet or similar, do the spot test as per the instructions. Even if you have used it elsewhere before.

1. Please don’t PM me to ask to have a look.

DH gets more enthusiastic oral from me, when he’s shaved, so tends to always be hairless

I zero trim all the time for pleasure and convenience. I think it has become much easier and cheaper to get rid of hair over the last 20 years so yes more people are doing it. I don't think it's generational (I'm in my 40s) but more to do with how active you are, physically and sexually, and also how much hair you actually have - I wouldn't be able to live with mine au naturel but if I only had a little then maybe I would be fine.

Before I started shaving it all of I'd often be a little itchy (dry skin) but since then I've been fine.

@StarlightLady, thanks for the tips about the conditioner! 👍

I agree with the comment that men with body hair elsewhere then no pubes looks a little strange, but you do see some men who remove all body hair including pubes. Personally I do “shaft and sack”. Watching Naked Attraction. (I know!). it does seem that on both genders pubic hair has disappeared to replaced by tattoos.

Shaft and sack here too. I am not particularly hairy, so I just pull them out with tweezers (ouch), but only usually for holidays or weekends away. I do not know if my OH appreciates this effort or not as she never mentions it, but I prefer the look

@FinnGermey . Why don't you ask her? I don't like seeing seeing my DH manhood in a forest of hair. A little is fine or none if he chooses but I do let him know I like it like that and appreciate him looking after himself. Equally, he does the same for me. He loves that I'm bare below and have been a long time now, but he still tells me in various ways how much he loves me like this and seeing me...so to speak 😳

My DP does nothing with his hair and I prefer that. I love running my fingers through his pubes and find it very sexy.

I get a brazillian wax, new discovery for me and I much prefer it. I wasn't paying attention last time and she asked if I wanted the top off, I absentmindly said yes and ended up with a hollywood. I'm going back to a brazillian next time though. It does feel much cleaner and sex is better as you can feel more.

No rights or wrongs but my DH says he likes me having a bush and enjoys looking at my vageena during foreplay. He trims his own though as like you says feels fresher. A full shaved guy does mean his willy looks bigger too so obviously I wont be complaining on that score. For me though im 44 and having pubes feels right for me.