One for the ladies (intimacy)

[Tiger785]

We both sleep naked and I like to cuddle skin to skin and cup a breast. My partner isn't a fan of this, makes excuses too hot etc. For me it's a turn on and show of affection, I'd love it if she'd do the same but never has, is this a pet hate for you women?

I can't stand it, never could.

Why are you describing her reasons for not wanting to do this as 'excuses'? They are reasons for wanting to sleep the way she likes. Why do you like it if you know she doesn't - 'cupping a breast' you mean 'holding HER breast'? She's not a teddy bear?

If it's a turn on for you then you're not intending to sleep. Your partner is, however, after a snooze in which case laying together naked can get a bit hot. So while it's ok for a while as a show of affection, it's not practical long term for sleep. It's a nice movie image but not what usually happens.

me and mine always snuggle to start off with i cuddle up to his back arm around him other arm just lying beneath me he usually holds my hand some nights we stay like it other nights we drift apart as time goes on in the night turning over etc often we end up back to back but we usually have some part of each touching

I’d like more of this however DH hates it. I think this is one for the people, not just ladies

I can't sleep if someone's cuddling me, it makes me feel hot and clammy.

It is nice to start cuddled up but I don't like it all night and I need to turn over. DH does do like you do to start in holding a breast and I drift off but usually find after an hour I need to turn over which I do.

I like to do the same for him but it usually results in a stirring lol

It would be a start to foreplay rather than to fall asleep if he cupped my breast... nice but not if I was wanting to actually sleep. Afterwards I often cuddle up to his back when we’re naked but I always have to move away to actually sleep as I hate getting overheated.

I wouldn't like it.

I very rarely get a good sleep if I'm
Naked and cuddled in as some parts get too hot and others get too cold.
I agree with PP if this is a turn on it's not a good nights sleep you are after just a snuggle between sex which is fine if your partner is ok with it but if she doesn't enjoy it I'm not sure how you can change that

We always go to sleep cuddled up naked . Usually wake up in a muck sweat and move apart to cool off and go back to sleep for the most part of the night .... but still touching somewhere (usually holding hands or linked legs ect ).
If dp wanted to cup my breast this would only ever be in foreplay and I'd find it quite odd to go to sleep tbh .

I'm with you on this - often put my partner's hand on my breast for cuddled-up sleeping, but I'm super tactile. However, it seems like lots of women find this too intense (so that it is annoying/uncomfortable), so I guess your wife just doesn't like/need it. I'm sorry as I know it feels sad not to be able to be as close as you want - probably best to accept that she doesn't like it, but try to find some other arrangement of limbs that does it for you and is ok with her? Women are a bit like cats sometimes, I'm afraid - if they like it, they love it, but if they don't, they really don't!

I love it for a minute or two, then it's too hot, or too uncomfortable, or his hand is too heavy, or his shoulders are too high for my neck, or I'm falling off his back because he's bigger than I am, or I wish I could just sleep in my bed that night in a starfish position taking over all of it...

She may be not as tactile as you, and then touching her somewhere may be too much - it may be arousing or uncomfortable. Some people are not used to linking affection to cuddles, I have two friends who just can't stand it, both grew up in quite strict families when them and their parents never hugged. My partner's school bully would always hit kids in their backs 20 years ago - and it's only now when he stopped jump up frightened when I'd suddenly kiss his back or twitch being asleep...

I absolutely love my DP spooning me and cupping my breast...I will move his hand there if it isn't already. We will often start the night like that then move away from each other as pp have said as it gets too hot.

Dont really find it comfy to sleep like that, also with my partner a cup of the breast usually turns into more! Usually when we sleep if we are too hot we are usually touching in some way even my feet on his feet or my leg over him, some positions are just too warm!

I absolutely love it and often ask my husband for it.
Currently pregnant and love it even more if he puts his hand on my belly.
The issue however is that my husband overheats and sweats a lot in his sleep, so we can't cuddle for too long or it becomes way too hot for me.

I would love it, my partner refuses to sleep naked. He sometimes puts his hand on my bum while he sleeps, but he never spoons or anything and says he's too hot

I can't sleep properly if I have anything on.

I’ll snuggle in the morning like 6am for the last 30 mins in bed but I can’t do it all night.

I absolutely hate it, it drives me mad makes hot and uncomfortable.

I’m not a massive fan either. 10 mins is fine but it gets too hot or the person behind (the big spoon) has a problem with their ‘bottom’ arm (the one on the bed when lying on your side). Where does it go? It gets squinched up into uncomfortable positions because there’s no room for it and the big spoon ends up with pins and needles or other aches/stiffness plus a mouthful of hair. There’s not much in it for the big spoon, I don’t think.