Is orgasm everything?

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Inspired by another post.

Just that really, do you think you need to orgasm to be completely satisfied in the bedroom?

Nope

Nope.....nice to have but absolutely not the be all and end all....

Yes - I think it is important! It leaves me frustrated if I don't (normally if I'm stressed or have something on my mind!)

Now I don't care too much if the dh doesn't orgasm - that sounds selfish of me but meh!

No, definitely not. I spent so much time with my ex trying to achieve the 'ideal' mutual orgasm that it lost its pleasure.
Now with my current partner we just enjoy each others' bodies and company and it's sooo much better. Sometimes one of us orgasms, sometimes we both do. Sometimes we don't (particularly if we've both already come earlier). It's always amazing.

Definitely...always need to orgasm and holding off is more the issue for me. I also always want to know DH has (although rarely a problem) as having him cum inside me just makes me feel nice and wanted!

It's not everything but it's not nothing either.

Having had many decades when I could only come solo, yes it was sometimes an issue. Having had many years when my partner could rarely come due to medication, yes it was sometimes an issue. Of course sex without orgasm can still be fantastic. Of course it's still worth doing and dh and I had great connection without orgasm. But knowing that orgasm is a realistic possibility at least some of the time makes things better. I don't think people would honestly choose otherwise. Being able to talk about it is really important too.

Yes. Rarely from PIV for me, but always achieved via other means 😂

No, there is so much pleasurable without striving for an orgasm.

Nope. It’s a nice bonus but definitely not the be all and end all. I can have a lovely, sexy, intimate and satisfying time without.

I don't need to every time. I'm happy if my partner orgasms and I really enjoy satisfying him.

From a mans perspective - yes

SidJames, it's not always important to a man (unless they're very basic). Many men like to make it last and tantric sex is amazing.

Whether it’s due to him or not, a woman having an orgasm makes him feel like he’s doing it right. That’s worth a hell of a lot.
Other things in play obviously, but that’s a huge box ticked.

Yes.
I’m female and afraid I’m going to sound selfish, but from my perspective, sex is pointless without an orgasm.
I am fortunate that DH has always been able to hold back and make sure we orgasm at the same time - I have always appreciated that.

Yes.

I'm fairly straightforward to operate, so if he can't get me to climax he's either not putting much effort in or needs to improve his technique. I realise I may be quite an unusual woman in this respect.

You have some responsibility for your own orgasm, EF.

Men make a big deal out of it and like to think they are capable of giving so much pleasure - that can be a bit of a drag actually. However men really don't have much of a clue about how a woman's body works.

From a mans perspective - yes

Hmm, not here. Edging and keeping just on the precipice is more intense than any orgasm I've had. MMO are pretty special though.

DP loves her orgasms but says the journey is often better than the destination.

It's not everything, but if a man did and left me high and dry I'd take a dim view. If we're both tired I'm have to just stop and cuddle

What SImplySteveRedux said!

Need an orgasm otherwise I end up unsatisfied and even hornier.

Yes, sex to me is pointless without an orgasm. Luckily it happens at least once every time we have sex (although action is not that frequent any more due to stress, tiredness, young children).

Me and DP have had sex where one or neither of us orgasms. Not that often but I'm happy enough with PIV and not playing afterwards so I can cum too. Most of the time we do though and it is a great way to finish.

Yes. I wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s pointless without, but I do feel frustrated and like there’s something missing. Especially if he finishes and I don’t. Luckily my DH is very patient and it always happens, even if it take a while after he’s done.