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Question for the men..

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Fucksandflowers · 07/09/2019 18:30

A fair few times now DH hasn't finished, he says I keep moving my legs a certain way and it puts him off and he doesn't finish.

If anything, he is normally a bit premature, it's a fairly recent change and it's a bit odd to me.

Today, it happened again, tried again a bit later but this time made sure I didn't move my legs and he finished.

Is this a thing? Hmm

I'm a bit anxious that maybe he's actually bored/finding me not as attractive/kids have made me a bit loose etc and he's trying to save feelings maybe?

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SimonJT · 07/09/2019 21:24

It’s normal not to cum every time, especially if you’ve had a few already, but the position thing is a bit odd. Sure most people have a favourite, but it doesn’t stop most people cuming in a different position.

Sparkybloke · 07/09/2019 21:37

I'd say I cum 5 times out of six (54 yr old) times we have sex. If I'm tired or feeling not 100% I may not finish...or if we've already had sex in the past 2/3 hrs☺ I may not. As far as positions go I almost always cum in missionary or from behind . Most times I don't finish is when my lady is On top as tbh there is not sufficient stimulation for me....a!though she gets off this way so that's just fine....I think as one gets older it takes that bit more stimulation but sex ain't all about the end product but the fun one has along the way...

waterSpider · 08/09/2019 21:46

Certainly angles and positions can make a difference, yes.

FinnGermey · 08/09/2019 22:50

I'm mid forties and I don't think I have ever failed to orgasm during sex, unless pretty comatose from alcohol!

marchez · 09/09/2019 11:05

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TemporaryPermanent · 09/09/2019 22:41

Do you like moving your legs that way? Does it help you come? Is it a new thing?

In which case why not keep going? Theres always a chance to have another round in a different position?

Is he doing a bit of sneaky domination which is turning him on, or is he just being a bit of a wazzock? He might know.

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Fucksandflowers · 09/09/2019 22:52

Thanks for the responses guys.

And yes, I do like moving/squeezing with my legs for that reason... Grin

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Blokenamechangesexboard · 11/09/2019 08:54

As I've got older and my sensitivity has decreased, I find that the position and movement does have an effect. There are now some positions that I can't finish in unless I'm very turned on.

Robin2323 · 11/09/2019 15:00

@Sparkybloke
May I just ask:
Dh went off the and couldn't finish.

Said he was tired - but I was on

Top doing all the work!

(Both 54)

It was after a lay in Sunday morning - how can he be tired?

Sorry to hijack the thread.

Sparkybloke · 11/09/2019 21:10

To answer your question @robin2323. If.my partner is On top she will grind to and fro so her clit runs along my pubic bone...she orgasms most easily from clitoral stimulation....I believe most ladies do. I usually get her to the big O before even thinking of PIV by using a finger or tongue to massage her clit. However when she is On top I am inside but with little or no in and out movement...sorry if tmi! So with little stimulation of my penis orgasm is difficult. One she has cum we usually, although not every time, move back to missionary or doggy and this allows me to move in and out of her thus more stimulation and the inevitable. She rarely orgasms from vaginal penetration alone although she enjoys the sensations when I am inside. I'd say I almost always orgasm in doggy or missionary but maybe only half the time with her on top...apologies to all of TMI...as you will gather we talk openly about what we like and don't like and we both aim to please the other....good lovemaking is all about communication, being relaxed and accepting that everyone is different and performs differently depending on mood, age, time of day etc and for ladies, their cycle. Orgasms are lovely but not essential for a rewarding session. They happen or they dont....their absence is never ever the fault of anyone...hope this answers the question.

Robin2323 · 12/09/2019 06:02

Thank you @Sparkybloke for your detailed reply.
It makes sense.

Used to have a fab sex life.
But after 20 odd years hit a bit of a dry spell.

Dh only seems to want to do it with me on top.

And if he doesn't finish like that I use my hand / mouth.

I was anxious when last time he didn't finish with me moving up and down (as it usually does)

He cited tiredness but he wasn't doing anything- I was the one bouncing around.

Work is really busy at the moment so o know he is tired.

We are working to get sex back to 'normal ' so feel this a step back.

Rieslinger · 25/10/2019 09:56

From my POV position can have a major factor in this, is he using something to help him last longer that numbs his plum?

FuriousVexation · 26/10/2019 05:52

It's very possible to be tired even if you've just had a full night's sleep! I'm a woman but it definitely goes for men too. For "tired" also read "stressed".

I think most guys find it hard to orgasm in cowgirl (aka woman on top.) I like to start in cowgirl so I can control the motion and get my fanjo warmed up, then after 5 mins or so, change to mish or doggy.

ExcitedForFuture · 26/10/2019 10:19

DP doesn't finish every single time. Doesn't bother him. Most times he does but sometimes it's down to tiredness.

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