What if the longest you and your husband have gone without sex for?

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Because we've gone without it for nearly two years (actually 18 months). Since we had our 3rs and final child. I lost my libido while breastfeeding for sure and also suffered from PND. Just the general stressed of looking after 3 children, leaky boobs, feeling mentally shit and feeling like I looked physically shit compared to before - oh and being completely knackered by the time the kids are all asleep meant that I was not interested in it AT ALL. Husband didn't even try to be honest. Was probably fairly knackered too!

Anyway, I finished breastfeeding 3 months ago and my libido has definitely returned but I feel like a bit of a knob suddenly trying it on. I've said I would like sex but he seems to have now lost his libido. Panicking slightly that he's getting it elsewhere but I don't know when he'd get the time to be honest! Should I just buy some sexy underwear and make a move?? How??? Eek! We used to have an amazing sex life pre kids

With DH we went for 3 years 1 month without DTD and i had given birth and both working 7 days a week plus constant to and fro for eldest two at boarding school. Sex just didnt seem important to either of us and we discussed and said we felt needed a break from it. We did discuss and decided to start slowly and masturbate together about once a week and after a couple of months i gave him oral for the first time in over 4 years. Slow starts are good ways back in but talking openly without kids around is vital. We are aged 44 and 51 and now have "all the way" sex about once a month and both more than satisfied by that frequency. message if want friendly ear OP.

Me and my mrs haven’t had sex for about 2 years going to be honest starting to feel like we are house buddies rather than man and wife, I’m fed up making the effort and being rejected don’t see the point anymore

A month but that was because we were long distance. Since we have lived together, maybe a week. But everyone is different and it can depend on circumstances. We both have high sex drives though

It has taken me a few attempts to open this post. Think maybe we're 18 months down the line. I had cancer and quite traumatic pelvic radiotherapy and only starting to feel like trying again. unfortunately I am now very overweight so struggling 😟