How to ask partner to 'go down' on me?

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So this is mortifying but here goes....
Few months in to a great relationship, sex is good, i give him oral but he has never gone down there ... its something that i really enjoy receiving - just the thought is a massive turn on. Obviously i don't want him to do anything hes not comfy with but it would be nice to try. How on earth do i ask him? Im not very confident in the bedroom due to prev relationship.
All help/tips/thoughts welcome!

I have never in my life been with a guy who has not enjoyed going down on women. I would be so disappointed if it turned out that was the case.

This is unacceptable and if it is not addressed pronto will cause problems in the future.

But I fail to understand how these things evolve. It is important with even a potential new bed friend to have a discussion first (condom use etc) and “what is your attitude to oral sex?” Should be included then.

It should not be a one way street. Personally, I would not let someone into my bed who was unwilling. In my bedroom those are not only the rules, it is the law!

Be direct, tell him to curl his tongue and plunge the clunge.

Maybe incorporate it with a bit of dirty talk during foreplay? Such as when you’re kissing / fondling etc say “make me cum with your mouth” or similar? In the heat of the moment hearing that I’m not sure he’d be able to turn you down.

When you are both aroused, say in a sexy voice you want his tongue to make you sum x

Or cum even

When you’re having foreplay and he’s paying attention to your nipples, just gently push his head down a bit further and shuffle up the bed a bit, putting your nethers in the region of his face. Gently guide his head down there and make appreciative noises. He’ll soon get the message and will hopefully at least give it a go.

I honestly couldn’t imagine describing it as a good sex life if he’s never even attempted going down on you, especially given it’s something you say here that you like. Surely it’s not fulfilling if you’re not getting your preferences met and satisfied?

I used to be a bit funny about receiving oral, but my new DP (post-divorce) loves doing it and almost insists! This has got me over my embarrassment and now it’s a regular (daily!) part of what we do. I’ve even managed to get over my nerves around 69-ing and other stuff like that. In fact, at his gentle suggestion I’ve experimented with all sorts of new exciting stuff which I’m glad about. Your DP prob just needs a bit of a shove to get him out of his comfort zone (and into yours )

When he's on top just push his head down there legs parted, I absolutely love licking between the legs.

OP, have you discussed it with him?

Go down on him, stop before he's close to orgasm.
Then get level with his face again and say "I think it's time you returned the favour."
If he pretends to not know what you mean, say "I want your tongue on my clit."
Make sure you're happy with your hygiene and confident before asking, so you know if he has any issues that it's about his hangups and not yours.

I totally get where you're coming from because I was socially conditioned also to think that women who asked for what they wanted were slaaaaaaaags.

it gets easier every time you do it. Every time you say "I would like X", you break down a brick in that wall that imprisons women.

I would have just sat on his face, he'll get the ides the.
But seriously just tell him it's your turn now.
Or just sit on his face...

I'd love it if my partner sat on my face😋
We don't really have any issues sex related, we just try it and say no if necessary. Sometimes she likes bum fun other times she doesn't so if I go there she'll let me know if it's off the cards. Very rare that I don't giver oral, main reason for when I don't is if she's using a vibe on her clit so I use my fingers inside her until she wants me inside her. Go on top and ride him for a bit then move into a 69, that way he has little option.