To ask how to spice up my sex life... forgotten how

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I love dh so don't want to ltb as this is just as much my fault as his. Over the years we have fallen into a rut with our sex life. We have a kiss and cuddle. He feels my boobs, I stimulate his penis then we move onto missionary position. I pretty much always come but do have to fantasie a lot to get turned on. We've been like this for so long now i want to try something new. I'm not interested in dressing up, role play, bdsm but what should we try. What do you really enjoy in your sex life?

A different venue - the sofa, the shower (foreplay only). There is no rule to say you have to wait until you are in bed.

Would sharing your fantasies with your DH turn you both on? What about different positions? Do you ever go down on each other?

Seriously? There's a sex board for this kind of post. What is your AIBU?

YABU

Cumin or cayenne pepper usually heat things up.

Maybe just start small, some sex dice to help you choose positions.
Do you do things such as give each other and oily massage without having sex afterwards.
Definitely different locations.

Just nipping in to confirm that the OP's a long-term member of the site (in case anyone was worried).

OP, we're going to move this thread over to our Sex topic, hope that's okay.

As others have said try some different positions. Don't just have sex in bed.....my partner sends me very suggestive texts....we usually leap one one another when we meet and get to it in the kitchen or the sofa! If you are both up for it try oral sex instead....we love it....good luck.

I love making out in the shower, especially love giving oral there.

Im also a massive fan of sex outside , though at the right time and not to offend others.

Text sex, and exchanging fantasies and pictures that way.

You don't need to ask us for ideas. There are plenty of books and websites out there with suggestions.

Can't you just try the things you've been fantasizing about?

Are you getting plenty of oral?

With regard to pisitions, personally, l prefer to be on top, to control movement, so you could give that a go. Aside from that, don’t see penetration as the be all and end all. What about some lengthy oral only sessions?

Also, try and avoid sex being something “you do” at bedtime. Take opportunities during the day at weekends.

Pisitions = positions!

More adventurous lingerie? Vibrator which he uses on you?

Try learning sensual or tantric massage, or do a course together, it's an incredible thing to do with your partner! There are many fun games which you can buy at a sex shop for positions and to start conversations about your sexual fantasies and desires (and to inspire fantasies!), different kinds of lubes (cooling, warming up, for him, for you etc.). Handjob and blowjob training is a fun and great thing to do on your part, or taking lap dance lessons

If you come through a lot of fantasising how about roleplay? That definitely spices things up and you can be a different person a few times a week.

Also some risky sex can be quite fun, sex in the park (make sure that you don’t get caught!) or a night away at a hotel.

DP and I don’t like porn but he reads sexy stories to me and that is a real turn on.

I’m really interested in tantric sex, currently reading about it. I want to go to classes with my DP but he’s unsure. It’s meant to be amazing.