Fantasy

[burntthepasta]

What's your sexual fantasy that you've never told anyone about, not even told your partner because you don't know how they'll take it

Mines a threesome

I'm not new to mn I change my username often.

Not much left that ive never told anyone about - ive had a lot of text sex this year. Theres one with me and three chefs in a restaurant kitchen.

I'd also like a three some guys/girls/mix whatever
Also think about rough sex and spanking but it's not my dh's thing

Would you ever tell a partner that? I think if I told mine he'd take it pretty bad 🤦🏻‍♀️

He wouldn't be up for it at all despite having a few 3&4somes before we met. We're currently trying to rebuild after a split so now's not really the right time i don't think. I do wish I'd gone a bit wilder whilst separated

Do you fantasise about two men with you? Is that why you're worried about telling him?

Most of my fantasies are not things i actually want to do, they're just sexually exciting things. But some of them I'd like to do...

Ahhh fantasy sex........... mmm

NC for obvious reasons. Yes, I fantasise (not all the time though) about a 3some with two men. Love the thought of being centre of attention and well...just feels so dirty lol

Have also on occasions thought about sex with another women but I think more from curiosity

The mind is a powerful thing. DH loves whispering things to me in bed as fantasy and can be extremely arousing.

@TemporaryPermanent yes 2 men. Dp asked if I had any fantasies and I just told him no, I think he would be pretty offended if I told him that.
But isn't fantasy just that? Doesn't mean you'd actually do it does it?

I have plenty. I divorced at Easter and have recently got into a FWB type relationship with a guy who is far more open about this than I would normally be. We are currently working down a pretty long list of things we'd like to try (or try again in his case!) 3somes are on there as are swingers clubs, bdsm and other things. We are working up to the "scary" ones but I must say I'm having great fun. He is respectful and non-pushy and it's really good fun to explore.

Are you sure your partner wouldn't welcome a bit of an exchange of idea. Just because you imagine being tied up and flogged in a bdsm dungeon doesn't mean you really want to go that far but it can provide some clues to less extreme things you might enjoy....

@burntthepasta Agree fantasy is lovely and also powerful between you in bed. The risk is becoming reality. I would never risk doing with DH as is something difficult to come back from if all goes wrong and tbh it isn't fair me having 2 men when I wouldn't be up for him having two women lol

But yes the fantasy is good and sometimes he loves playing that in bed. He just doesn't know I really love the idea lol

Did he say he had any fantasies?

I wouldn't say to a partner 'My fantasy is a threesome' but I'd work up to it somehow. I might start by asking him if he'd ever though about two women, because in my experience there isn't a straight man on the planet who hasn't thought about it. I'm always interested to find out what they imagine actually happening - it's often surprisingly vague but they quite like talking about it. Then when they're getting turned on, I'd talk more about specific things I thought about happening to me in my fantasy, and then kind of pull back the focus to reveal that it's actually two different men involved. Which is just like him with two women.

The difficulty comes if he's the one man who responds to the idea of two women by saying 'Ew! Yuk! No' or words to that effect. I'd still push a bit and find out why not, which could offer a similar path in.