Hi all.
I’m a mum to a four month old DD. My sex drive was killed stone dead at about 25 weeks of pregnancy and is yet to return. DP and I haven’t had sex since I was 25 weeks pregnant, so the best part of 7/8 months.
My sex drive has never been all THAT high (once a week was enough for me) but now it’s non-existent. I don’t even like DP kissing or hugging me as I worry it will lead to sex.
I think my reluctance/lack of desire to have sex is made of several things; one is just good old fashioned tiredness! When I’m in bed the first thing I wanna do is sleep! Another thing is that I HATE my PP body. I didn’t gain all that much weight during pregnancy (less than a stone), but I am covered in stretch marks and have loose skin on my belly. I worry DP will find me repulsive (although there’s no reason why he should, he’s a loving, affectionate partner who has never been unkind). Thirdly, I tore quite badly during birth and required a fair few stitches. It’s healed well and it all looks normal down there, but I get occasional pain even if I’m just sitting down or using the toilet, so I’m terrified sex will be very painful.
DP has been wonderfully patient and hasn’t pressured me at all, but he must be feeling frustrated and it’s unfair of me to expect him to stay in a sexless relationship (we’re only in our mid 20s), but I can’t see my sex drive returning any time soon 
. We still have a good relationship and he’s a great dad to DD. We have a laugh and I still love him, but I just don’t want to have sex! I worry that this change will be permanent.
Did anyone else completely lose their libido during sex? Did it come back?
Thanks! 