Anyone following the porn thread on Relationships?

[Eesha]

It's about how much porn is ok, with many saying it should be banned and sends the wrong messages out. I never thought of porn in this way, with a FWB who uses it a lot. But reading the thread makes me wonder whether it is ok to use

If your FWB uses it but still has the drive to have sex with you, then surely that answers your question?

Some very dogmatic views on that thread. Porn featuring consenting adults is fine. My partner and I sometimes watch it together, and it definitely enhances our sex life. As for the opinions by some less tolerant posters that NO porn is acceptable, I wonder how they would feel about the dozen or so sex tapes we have made together (stored on an encrypted external HD) over the past 6 years. Maybe they think that we should delete these as well!

Erotica has always been around...the Romans painted images of couples on their walls. One of the first things men pointed their cameras at were naked ladies! The VCR was made the success of was at least in part as people could watch naughty films at home. And the internet has made access infinitely more easy. All men will has looked at porn on the web ....I have...Undoubtedly there is good and bad porn out there and yes, some of it is degrading and awful. But you cannot put the genie in the box. Those who want it banned are both unrealistic and seem to feel their views should be imposed on everyone else. Certainly try and limit access to over 18 and certainly try and remove the extreme stuff...but a total ban...as with most things there is good and bad....and there is some tastefully produced very adult erotica which can be enjoyable in the right atmosphere....although too much of anything is obviously a bad thing. Be selective and use in moderation...

I got criticised on the other thread.

I’m female, 40s, sexually confident, a feminist, l have a happy sex life and sometimes I watch porn.

Seemingly, that’s not allowed.

I wouldn’t want any one to be involved in the industry against their will. And I wouldn’t want my clothes to be produced in a sweat shop under apauling conditions either.

i watch from time to time, just something exciting at times, and I'm a woman. I just didn't realise people felt so strongly about it.

(Waves at Eesha ) Personally, porn does very little for me - even though I'm male, and supposedly a visual creature, I find my imagination does much more for me than watching something so prescribed, so I prefer erotic fiction to porn.

For me, it's the same as seeing a naked woman, and a clothed woman. I can imagine what she might look like, which is much more of a turn on. (I am talking in a in-a-relationship perspective, rather than anything else!)

I don't think you could ban it (there'd almost be no internet left ) - trying to do so would probably push it underground, and cause more issues for the women.

However, If the women in porn are there voluntarily, it's probably for money (or they really like sex). For some, it might be their only source of income.

However, If the women in porn are there voluntarily, it's probably for money (or they really like sex). For some, it might be their only source of income

Like most jobs then?