Ideas to get us out of a rut!

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Seem to be stuck in a sex rut! Doing the same things all the time. Looking for ideas to spice things up a bit if anyone can suggest anything?

What’s your starting point? Is your relationship vanilla?

Sorry shouldve said that. Yes very vanilla

It’s difficult without knowing more about you. Have you considered oral only sessions in addition?

Also consider making time for sex sessions during the day and avoiding nighttime “something you do when you go to bed” type scenarios.

Role play?

Varying the times is a good idea so it doesn't seem like just something for bedtime. Good thinking thank you I'll give it a try.

Never tried role play. Do like the idea of it but not sure if I'd just feel silly

Role play can be really good. I was similar when we needed a change but we did on a weekend away. A few wines helped and whilst eating I whispered a suggestion I would like him to role play with me (pretending I was an escort). Made for an exciting night as DH really got into it with lots of dirty talk and we tried something we hadn't before. Only problem was a days walking the following day and I was bow legged!

Do your best to get through the nerves and have a good night (or day😆)

@Namechangedyorkshire hahahha that made me laugh so much! Must've been a good night to still be affecting you the next day hahaha. I'll try and pluck up the courage to suggest it

The board game Monogamy (can be bought from Lovehoney discreetly) is a frequent suggestion. We have it and it’s fun. There are hundreds, maybe thousands, of good articles on-line about this. Grab a bottle of wine, sit down on the sofa together, Google some advice, chat about how you both feel about it and things will likely immediately take a turn for the better.

We noted that in a modern crazy-busy life we tend to jump straight into what we both like best. But it’s an easy rut to get out of, too.