It’s a difficult topic for me. I’ve been in a relationship with a serious porn addict which ended up being extremely abusive sexually, and very damaging to my mental health. I was also raped and / or sexually assaulted by previous partners who were regular (ab)users of porn. I absolutely detest pornography as a result and can think of few things that are a greater threat to the developing sexuality, empathy and sexual equality of our children. I wish it could be wiped off the face of the earth and I know that it’s only going in one direction - more of it, more extreme, easier to access. I do think that a plan that makes it more difficult for children to access hardcore pornography with a quick search is necessary.
Also, saying they banned porn featuring female orgasm is disingenuous. They banned porn containing female ejaculation which is not the same thing because
a) female ejacuiation is not an orgasm, they are independent things. Trying to make female performers to ejaculate on cue for the benefit of male viewers makes me very uncomfortable
b) mainstream porn is never remotely concerned with a woman’s orgasm unless it’s framed in the way of a fetish for the male viewer (eg female ejaculation)
c) I wish they would ban theatrical performative female orgasms since it’s completely fucking misleading
d) it’s not banned - anyone who wants to access any of this stuff can, it just can’t be produced in the U.K. any more
e) it’s interesting (and as I say, disingenuous) that you’ve singled out female orgasm from the list of banned content, much of which is abusive, extreme or violent, just to make your point. For anyone not in the know, you’ve made it sound like the government has singled out female orgasm as being something too shocking to show in porn - you know that’s not the case.
On the other hand, I don’t think this plan will be effective. I don’t think most children will bother with VPNs and Tor, but any who do bother will then have access to even more concerning content.
I don’t think it’s a good idea to give a private company details so that they can create a database of everyone in the U.K. who watches porn (although many porn sites require at least sign up, if not credit card details, so it seems many are happy to hand over their details already to access porn).
I would much rather that:
- everyone were given an online passport that removes access to certain sites to under 18s
- Sites that contain porn having to use specific domain suffixes so that they can be more easily blocked, and any site without that domain suffix posting adult content be dealt with very harshly
- governments try harder to tackle the issues around VPNs and the dark web
- improving sex Ed in schools to counteract the very damaging content of hardcore porn on the brain, especially the developing brain
Short of removing all traces of porn from the internet which will never happen, I’m not sure how else to tackle it.
I don’t think this current plan will be wholly effective but I do think it will have some positive effects - it’s just that there are also negative ones which don’t seem to have been thought through.
I know my views may seem extreme to some, particularly those who see porn as a bit of fun. My experiences make me see it very differently indeed. It’s incredibly damaging and something needs to be done about the acessibility and prevalence of it.