Shall I just go for it

[Chubbs96]

This may be a little long so a apologise in advance.
My sex life is pretty much non existent at the moment and on the odd occasion it happens, it's not even worth taking my trousers off. I've spoken to him about it and how vanilla it is and nothing ever changes. We've been together 6 years and it's only been for the last year sex has been pants.
Any who, I clearly play a role on the rubbish sex as I've gained a lot of weight and the thought of surprising him when he gets home wearing something other than jeans is so scary. He does say he loves me and my weight but I don't think he's actually ever seen it as I always wear night waisted jeans and tuck my mumtum in there haha! And baggy tops. I think we're both pretty shy but I feel as though this is just ruining our marriage. So I'm manning up and I'm going to surprise him tomorrow when he comes home. My question is, other than a bit of alcohol for courage. What can I actually do? Like how do I make it sexy rather than just a chubby moron stood in doorway. Also, where can I buy some nice outfits.
Sorry for the long post
Thank you for reading (if you managed to get this far)

This would probably benefit from a man’s perspective, but from my own point of view I think you are going for a proposed radical change too quickly.

I would suggest renouncing the jeans (not totally of course!) and tell him you are going for a wardrobe change. They tell us summer us summer is coming, so treat yourself to some summer dresses. You could even opt for one dress that would take a stiff drink before you wore it out.

You can then develop things from there if you choose to. It’s a case of making yourself feel better about you. That is going to mean a diet too.

Oh, and in choosing your outfits, remember these “rules”, you can have tits or you can have legs, but both is over the top.

Ann summer/love honey/Victoria secrets but Asda George actually had a nice body suit in the lingerie section the other day.

I personally like lace teddy suits but baby dolls are flattering.

Alchol and more alchol.

I recently started sleeping with someone new and the first few times I just kept putting on lingerie as it looks sexy but covers up the stretch marks on my stomach!

He has seen them though and he has even said there not even bad and I’m still hot so I think our own insecurities are in our head.

I’m sure he will fancy you in anything!

Can I give a man's point of view (it is only my point of view but might help).
Can you go to bed before him and be naked in bed when he gets into the bed. I think there is nothing nicer or sexier or better than feeling my wife's naked body next to mine.
If you are under the covers he might not realise until you snuggle up to him.
Try it on a day when he is not stressed after a bad day at work

The first thing you need to do is stop seeing yourself as a 'chubby moron'. You might have a bit of excess weight, but let me assure you that sexiness comes from deep inside a woman. I once had a girlfriend who was a BBW; she would sometimes greet me, fresh from the shower, smelling good, and wearing nothing but a dressing gown that she would open wide as we went to kiss - that worked.

You could wear a dress and make yourself feel good by wearing no underwear whatsoever, or nice lingerie. You could then give him a flash as you went about doing the things you ordinarily do. Try different things, have a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge, leave a note on his pillow entitling the bearer to a free evening of hot love-making, just use your imagination.

Above all, be confident.