Does your libido change dramatically in short spaces of time?

[nannyplummyarse]

Sorry I'm not sure if this goes here or if the sex topic would of been better?

I'm just wondering if anyone else's libido fluctuates really quickly. I'm not on anything and dh uses condoms. I can go weeks and weeks not having the urge then suddenly I'm thinking about it all the time dh is in his element right now.

What I'm asking is if I'm not using a hormone contraception then should my "mood" just be one level not up and down? Does this make sense..I feel like I'm not making any sense.

Does this happen to anyone else. Thanks.

Yes! Some days it's all I can think about. Others I am miles away from it - busy with repairs, gardening, work and other things.

I'm still the same amount of busy though lol just this week I'm like a horny teenager we hadn't dtd for 4 weeks before my flare up on Tuesday! It's happened 9 tones since then. Dh told me last night "not tonight babe I'm knackered" I don't think I've ever heard him say that in the 10 years we've been together lol.

9 times*

Well good for you. Life is too short IMHO not to act on your desires.

May as well tire him out while you can!

Yes I am the same and my horny times tend to be in the middle of my cycle

I'm in the middle of my cycle too.although I'm not usually like this at this time. Some months I'm all one level of nope lol o just get random flare ups. I guess this is just me although I expected it to be just one level than up and down.

i'm similar. varies according to cycle but some cycles are up more levels than others.

For me, just before a period, although I note that you are mid cylce. And in warm sunny weather!

Pressed send too soon. I certainly fluctuate widely.

Ovulation, especially as you get older I’ve found, can absolutely cause this.

I have a strange situation where I’ve had hormonal issues for years and it’s totally gone, then it goes from 0-100 (as now) for a few days. It’s like binary, on or off. It’s very strange.

Yes! Although unfortunately mine can disappear for 3-4 months at a time which is pretty extreme, and then suddenly be constant for about a week, then disappear again. Sounds amusing but it's actually quite horrific and I feel so sorry for my DH, never knowing how things stand and coping with this.

@WordsAndWorlds that exactly how mine is 🤦🏻‍♀️ are you on contraception?

@nannyplummyarse no I'm not- ironically I actually chose to come off anything hormonal a good 5 years ago to try and stabilise my hormones but it clearly hasn't worked. I think I actually may have been better back in the Mirena days when I didn't get periods at all. Might look back into it although I hated the damn thing.

Have had a convo with DH today actually because he's feeling unloved and it really has been a very long time. When I suddenly get a crazy nympho week it just makes it worse because the contrast from that to nothing makes no sense to him at all.

I was bang in the middle of my cycle last week and I couldn't think of anything but sex. Very off for me, I take a muscle relaxant / v mild antidepressant and I think this has affected my libido significantly (or maybe it's just years of broken sleep)

My libido last week took me hugely by surprise and I only realised afterwards that I was mid cycle, I assume it was around the time I ovulated. I'm not on BC either

@WordsAndWorlds yep same here. I came off the pill 2 years ago and haven't taken anything since. I thought I'd just go back to normal but I'm starting to come to terms that this is probably my "normal" now, which is a little depressing 🤦🏻‍♀️

This week I've got back to making up excuses every night. Sex is the furthest thing from my mind now 😬

From when my period ends it ramps up and peaks around the time I ovulate. All i can think about. Then dies down pretty quickly and i can't be bothered for the last week or so before my period starts. Every month is the same.

I tend to get a spike mid cycle, and sometimes before my period. Some months I’m not interested in the slightest and others I’m rampant.

Maybe if DH is feeling unloved try getting a bit frisky. Sometimes the urge will come over you. Also there are more ways to have sex than the usual heterosexual way, so if you don’t want to be penetrated then there are plenty of other options. I am not straight but have been with men in the past, and in my experience, as long as they come they’re not particularly bothered how.