What constitutes rough sex??

[Ambs81]

For context I’ve bern with my Dh 11 years and have 2 dc’s.
Always had a good sex life, with normal dry spells after babies/ breastfeeding etc.
My husband has always been quite dominant with sex, and quick early into sex would slap my bum during sex, which I didn’t think was strange.
That quickly moved to occasionally slapping my face and boobs during sex.
He also often grabs my neck and face during sex, and is quite forceful with blowjobs etc.
I’m pretty game for all this, and obviously totally trust him.
Just this week, during sex he got clothes pegs and asked to put them on my nipples. I didn’t really mind except a felt an idiot!! But agreed to get some appropriate ones in Ann summers if he wants to do it again!!
I might sound naive, but this nipple incident has made me realise he’s probably ‘into’ this sort of stuff more then I thought??
Is this s&m???
I can’t imagine my friends are doing this kid of stuff?? Or are they??

My husband would never do that to my nipples and would be terrified if I suggested it!
He sounds like a sadist?? But maybe a light weight one!

It's not sadism, but you need to discuss what turns you both on.

Maybe watch Fifty Shades of grey, it's not really BDSM, more light weight kink but see if it appeals.

It sounds to me as though you ought to set some limits and talk about safe words to use if you need to.

Here is a BDSM checklist:
www.scribd.com/document/163631556/BDSM-Checklist

Why not ask your partner to complete one while you also fill one in? You will find out what both you and he want to do, and open up a few opportunities for play.

It’s ok if he’s using wooden clothes pegs made from sustainable timber under the FSC approval protocol. My respect would go out the window if you are using plastic pegs. They shatter easily and the little shards end up going to landfill.

I'm not into face or breast slapping (That's probably due to an abusive ex though) and they make me cringe and turn me off. A good slap (or 10) on the arse though? Bring that on!

The main question for me is does it do it for you? It's one thing him being into it but do any of these things tinkle your bell? I second what PP said about safe words etc. It sounds like you have a good relationship in the sense of communication, just have a conversation about it

But what do you like OP? Did he ask you before he started hitting you round the face during sex?

My ex (horrid porn addict who would spring increasingly violent acts on me during sex until I ended up being sexually assualted multiple times a week) if given an inch would take a mile. Please be careful.